Perjury is lying to the judiciary about a fact material to a case, whether on a sworn document—such as a restraining order application or affidavit—or in a courtroom after looking a judge in the eye and swearing an oath to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but.
A material fact is one that’s likely to influence a judge’s ruling. A plaintiff who falsely testifies during a restraining order hearing, for example, that s/he was sexually harassed, threatened, or assaulted is a perjurer. Even a false allegation of fear, which may be the only basis for a restraining order, is a perjured allegation.
Though statutes designating perjury a crime are seldom enforced—and then only in publicly prominent prosecutions (such as those of professional athletes accused of doping)—perjury is a felony whose sentence prescribes a fine and/or term or incarceration.
Perjury is deemed a grave offense, because its practice not only exhibits contempt of the court’s authority but usurps that authority, besides, leading to miscarriages of justice.
Rarely, though, is perjury treated as a grave offense.
The courts, in fact, are notoriously tolerant of lying by restraining order petitioners, often cynically regarding it as part and parcel of the process.
Indeed so offhand has the awarding of restraining orders become that judges may even induce petitioners to lie to them, which act is itself a felony crime: subornation of perjury.
One woman just wanted her ex-boyfriend to stop calling and bugging her. I thought, no way is she getting [a restraining order]. The judge asked her, “Are you afraid he will hurt you?” She answered, “No.” The judge said, “I cannot issue one if you have no fear of him.” She said, “I don’t think he will hurt me…I don’t want him to bug me,” and fumbled for what else to say. The judge again leaned in, stuck her head forward and said, “I am going to ask you one more time: Do you fear him?” She said, “Yes.” Bingo! You just won a restraining order.
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TALKING BACK to restraining orders 
A vengeful ex-girlfriend filed a protection order against me. Her information what false from top to bottom and I have all the emails, and SMS messages, and Facebook posts and timelines to prove. On top of that, I had emails and SMS messages from her where she had been stalking me. She would come by uninvited then message me later asking about vehicles she saw in my driveway.
She literally hid up the road from my house one night and then tried to hit my girlfriend and I with her car when I walked her outside.
When I got the notice about the protection order in the mail I took two days off work immediately and painstakingly prepared and printed out all the emails and messages she had sent me. I put these all into a timeline and outlined all the proof of every lie she told. I had printed out threats she made to me that she was going to embarrass me every way she could. I had the emails and SMS messages from her where she was stalking me. I had the messages she sent my girlfriend, my friends, and EVEN MY BOSS AT WORK!
I spent two days getting all the ready and I showed up to court on the hearing date to defend myself … the judge did not let me say a single. The judge did not let me submit one single page from the stack of evidence I spent two days preparing. The judge refused to even look at the emails and SMS messages I printed out. The judge wouldn’t take even a single second to look at what I brought in to prove this person was a lying, vengeful ex who had threated to embarrass me several times.
The judge grant the protection order and said I had to turn my firearm into the police.
Needless to say I came across this website while doing research. I’m about to sue freaking everyone that was involved in this.
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I would think about appealing first. If the judge refused to allow you to exercise your basic rights under the rules of adversarial process: right to address the court, right to submit controverting evidence, right to examine the witness, etc., then I think you should appeal the order. Then sue for abuse of process if that’s what you want to do. Get a copy of the recording of the procedure and transcribe the key parts and/or move for an oral argument and play the CD in court before the appellate judge. Those would be my thoughts.
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Thank you, that is helpful.
I have spoken to a few attorneys. It is difficult to find an attorney because each one keeps saying that since no crime was committed to defend against its not the type of case they handle.
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They didn’t want the case, probably. What you would need to establish credibility is to get a “favorable termination” of the injunction. What that means is a finding in your favor. If you appeal and all the appellate judge hears is some asshole barking at you and refusing to allow you to speak, then I would think there’s a good chance the injunction would be tossed. If that happened, then you could sue for malicious prosecution and maybe some other torts, too, like fraud, false light, intentional infliction of emotional distress, etc. Stalking may be a tort in your state. Each of these torts has “elements” you would establish at trial.
First, though, you would need a win. You can appeal the injunction yourself or you could probably find a criminal defense attorney who would help for a few grand. Your defense would not be that the plaintiff lied. That could carry weight, but I wouldn’t depend on it. Your defense would be that you didn’t get a chance to defend: judicial misconduct or error in trial procedure, that kind of thing. Quick absorb this:
https://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/personal-injury/lawsuits-malicious-prosecution-abuse-process.html
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That’s a layman’s advice, not a lawyer’s, which is why it’s free.
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I’m currently stuck in a situation like this now. I have text message proof from my existing best friend where they both lied under oath and lied to a judge saying that my ex wasn’t pregnant with my kid. If the kid really wasn’t mine then I assure you I would’ve left it alone but I wanted to be there for my daughter. Now I have proof that she creates fake accounts and stalks my social media. Then the best friend gets in contact with me months later, and tells everything how the child is mine and explained in full detail how they both manipulated the law to try to get me in jail. I never once laid a hand on her nor made any threat towards her. But whats it matter in these cases, the woman will always win its inevitable unfortunately. I hate to say it but im glad I can read others stories thats going thru the same shit.
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I’m sorry for your ordeal. I’m not an attorney, but there may be a way to appeal the allegations belatedly with this new evidence provided that too much time hasn’t passed since the friend changed his or her story.
Also, I’m wondering if there’s a way to sue for paternity rights and compel a DNA test.
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I too am victim of a false RO put in place by my own father. I am in podunk Sumter County and unfortunately I was too angry and stubborn to go to the court date so I now have a 3 year stay away order from the home my wife and newborn daughter at the time all shared with this selfish sociopath who was told point blank the first time he tried to get me removed that this is no way to evict your son and if you want him out of your house you need to take the proper steps to evict him. Well, he is buried in debt and in less than one year turned a very affordable house payment of $550 and refinance it for the $10,000 equity it gained from me renovating the living area, kitchen and both bathrooms to a whopping $1200 payment through some fly by night scammers. So as he is walking around with every bit of the money he received, about $8000 I estimate after he played down online poker and whatever else he does. We get into an argument because I don’t want him going to Orlando with cash in his pocket to look at used cars of Craigslist. Well that’s exactly what he did and he paid every dollar he had in his pocket for a 2006 Honda Accord that didn’t last a month. Just a rid bit from my life with this guy. So my wife and I have a beautiful baby girl this past November, she’s a year old as of the 14th, so very unexpected but grateful for her more than anything. My father has been already saying I back talk him and he’s sick of the disrespect and he wants me gone blah blah blah. The court tells him unless he is in fear for his life he needs to file an eviction case not a protection order. So he goes back the next day and says he’s in fear of me and they granted him the order, a cocky little sheriff came told me I had to leave, I was going to call a friend to come get me, pack some clothes and stuff and this little insecure prick sheriff tells me I gotta go now, on foot, however he is trying to get a ride from being so pushy and telling me he doesn’t care where I go or how I get there but I needed to leave immediately. Mind you, never been charged or accused of any violation of the law but this superhero judge signed a paper that had the power to rip me from the home of my wife and child with no respect for me or anything I represent. I have been living in the woods for the past six months and I see my daughter as much as possible but I don’t know what to do and I am so depressed I have l desire to find work. My father is acting like nothing happened to my wife and trying to interject himself into my daughters life as obnoxiously as he is. He has called child protection and they have come to the house made my wife piss in a cup, of which she has her medical marijuana card so that’s the only thing that showed up. Child protection dropped the case both times he did this and I feel that there has to be some sort of resources to sue and prosecute him for what he has done. He is the most dishonest conceited person who just thinks he is the best man ever. He steals from his clients as he is a realtor for exp and his whole circle are nothing but crooks. He needs to be exposed and dealt with accordingly.
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I was seated up by a lesbian police officer who I met over the phone, when calling the police department to reach the chief. The officer refused to transfer the call and was combative and argumentative on the first call (74 mins) and the following day when I tried again (56 mins). two weeks later the woman went to my work, a Whole Foods, in her uniform and while responding to a call nearby, and began heckling me, yelling “are you keeping it in your pants, staying out of trouble, I saw you on TMZ for exposing yourself at Marshalls. You remember me right? do you remember me?”
I did not recognize her by name or face as the officer that made fun of my hearing impairment over the phone. After 15 minutes the abuse only stopped when I got in my car and left work..
1 month later, at a hotel, she and her partner responded to a call from the manager. I was in the lobby when she arrived and she focused on my, “Hey Mr. Master, you remember me right? Officer Vernon”.
Wow! Was I scared. I put the pieces together, she was the woman on those two calls, at at my work. I tried to leave and she blocked the door. I asked, am I free to leave, and she said yes. Then she said, “Everyone is sick of your shit!”
I said something vulgar, but appropriate to her bizarre focus on me. She turned and beat me, punching e repeatedly. She held me in a cop car for three hours while she figured out how to get away with assault. She devised that because I Didn’t have a mask on, I was a threat to myself and others, yes. 5150’d by a woman who was embarrassed on a phone call that when she divulge her lesbian status, I replied, “I knew when you took my call.” What I didn’t know was that she had others on the line listening, other cops and my comment humiliated her.
Once I got released I filed charges against her.for assault, wrongful imprisonment, and lying on a police report, failing to report physical contact with a civilian.
The investigation was going very slowly and the Chief learned that my partner filmed the assault and they wanted it quashed. So the Chief of police Galea, Captain Krause, (her at work relationship with Mrs. Krause, and the City manager arranged to surveil my family, stalking my house watching us in our kitchen and living room. Once they knew my routine and address, filed a Workplace Harassment Order, and every bad actor cop, captain and chief attested to false facts.
Their report said that I assaulted the female officer at her workplace. any conscious person would read that and say to themselves, “Hey seasoned judge, your honor, one with keen judgement. Lets see. He assaulted a female officer at her workplace which is a police department and the remedy was not to arrest, hold, detain, charge or cite him.. nothing was to happen. after the assault I guess he was given a sticker and was wished well. Then wait three months and bring up that occasion to get a restraining order and then order him not to post anything negative about the female officer so that he cannot release the video of her beating him?”
Which way did the judge vote? Well the attorney for the office changed the court date and did not notice the Respondent. I went to my hearing but it was not on the calendar, the hearing was changed to the following day. The officer didn’t show up because I would have provided proof of multiple perjures. So without jurisdiction over the Respondent, and with a missing petitioner, the judge gave the MIA officer 3 years of protection.
For fun, the police department has sent false reports to the DA claiming that the narrow and very specific terms of the judge’s order, were violated and they have not, in fact, I moved 60 miles away, and could not have violated them. I have two arraignments in November on misdemeanor charges for willful disobedience and knowingly violated a court order.
http://www.twitter.com/losaltospolicedepartment
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After 31 years of marriage and being eith the woman of my dreams for 38 years since she was 14 and I was 16, After six children and a successful life together, I find Myself homeless. I am disabled With a head injury from falling off the roof and caving in my head in 1995. My angle wife and soul mate took care of me and I recovered to a degree and am able to do a lot and never got disability or SSI. We worked together with my disabilities and had five more children together. She gas truly been my best friend. we have had arguments like any couple but worked things out. I have a teflon Eye socket and two titanium plates and six screws and eight inches of wire holding my head together. I live in severe oain everyday. I gave crushed septum and sinuses. when low pressure moves in and the weather changes, I am in bed for two days in severe pain. I live on pain meds and cannot survive with out them. In 20014 I destroyed a child predators house with a sledge hammer. My attorney said if you trust your wife put everything in her name and get a fake separation to protect your assets. We fid this. I trusted her.The fines and legal fees totaled $100,000. In 2020 my loving wife took the kids to a woman’s shelter and got a TRO and told me I gad to leave the house immediately. She said she lived me and needed time to think and do not get an attorney and she would not ask for a divorce. I went to the permanent Restraining order hearing and was not prepared for what happened. She gad Plumas Rural services with her came into court shaking and crying with four security people even though she was not a claiming physical violence she clained 38 years of emotional abuse and she told the judge she was afraid if me. She admitted in 38 years I never hit her or threatened her. The judge never let me speak but to say I have never done anything to her ir the six kids that they should be afraid of me. The judge said well she is afraid of you so Im issuing a permanent three year restraining order. She got sole custody of all four kids as two are adults. She went to the judge in the new county we live in and said here is the separation order and everything is in my name and he owns nothing and it is all mine. I was now homeless with no wife or kids and has all three houses and I am ordered to stay 100 yards from all three homes. She has all our money and assets and I am homeless with a 98 Jeep grand Cherokee with 175, 000 miles on it. We live in the Sierra Mountains and I have bern freezing in my car for most of the past 14 months. I love my wife and kids snd really want to reconcile. She has slked me crying I have ruined the marriage and I said Im sorry and I Love you and the kids and really want to work things out. This happened four times and she recorded me saying I love her and my response to her is s violation of the restraining order and now I have contempt charges totaling 90 days in jail. I have an attorney now thanks to a family member but it is not going well. I have seen my kids less than 30 hours in 14 months. I lost everything so far and Iam disabled and homeless. She is throwing my things away and putting my things in storage and wants ne to pay over $500 a month in storage fees. I live her and my kids and I believe in the Bible and Gods wird and fo nit eant go divorce her. I love her and want to work things out.
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Hello Co- Warriors-
I too am a victim, then became a whistle blower,informant exposing my perps, then re-victimized, again w/ six false stalking petitions filed in Pinellas County, FL. Three were granted and all were dismissed including one where we made case law! In my case, the criminal brother/sister tag team were using these as weapons from blocking me (and others),
from working w/ L E/State etc to bring more charges against them… Well, it is not working… Yes, one-sided and unfair to say the least— Perjury? Please- let’s just hang a neon sign flashing that says “All liars welcome!” We do not prosecute”!l
We are working now to expose all of this w/ the help of other victims and a GREAT investigative reporter…
As the drama unfolds- the loopholes are everywhere and crime does pay— We are trying to fill in those holes but it is a long, frustrating process and expensive both mentally,physically, and spiritually. Do not let it get u down! Stand strong!
Expose them and write/call everyone including the Chief Judges, AG, Gov, City Council, State Prosecutors, L E, City Clerks Office and on & on… It is your STORY and your Truth!
You light enough hairs on fire, you do get them talking… We can make a difference!
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I came across this earlier, randomly, and I’m curious how you respond to it:
http://www.bustle.com/articles/126672-why-the-love-actually-note-card-scene-is-actually-very-creepy
It disgusts me. Writing like this actually influences people and policy. I’m guessing, for instance, that you didn’t boil any bunny rabbits or try to slide down someone’s chimney. But it’s okay to call you a “stalker.”
A social scientist at Michigan U did a study whose “research conclusions” suggest the movie Love Actually has conditioned women to be more tolerant of “stalkers.”
A couple I know, who are in their 70s, ritually watch this movie every Christmas.
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I can’t understand our court system I have truly believed it to be just right and held to a standard of competency until now it is who you know and how much money you have those scales represent justice for a reason both sides get to show up w counsel and present their case to the court
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What is il state statues in regads to eops if a police officer showed up in uniform for a civil court case which he had no record of and willing testified before the court with no police report no documentation the court was petitioned state’s away and under a domestic violence statue doesn’t at least one incidence of violence have to be mentioned
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Not per se, no. This is how Illinois defines “domestic violence”:
Abuse basically means whatever it needs to.
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If there were any consequences many would be afraid to lie but without a penalty why not
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I have been the victim of RO abuse now three times-2008, 2013, and now again in 2015. I’m almost numb to it. My sister is severely mentally ill. She suffers from paranoia and delusions. Every time she doesn’t get something she wants she goes down to the county attorney’s office and tries to get a RO put on me saying I committed some act of violence against her. The last two times just resulted in “warning letters.” She is lying and those dimwits cooperate with her to get her out of their office. She is pissed this time around because I’m executor of my mother’s estate and she isn’t. It’s such a shame my mother left each of her four surviving children money and an income producing property. Who couldn’t be happy about that-only the lunatic. My only concern is that I know she is seriously mentally ill. I have no idea what she might do now that my Mom is not around to keep her in check. I’d get a RO on her but I depise the people in that office and not sure I could stomach going down there. So if she kills me in some delusional rampage at least I said,”I told you so!” somewhere lol.
Laughing because it’s all you can do when liars are manipulating the system.
Norma Cavazos May
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You have my condolences, Norma. Have the false accusations taken any form other than filings with the court (claims to other people, for example, or social media comments?)? If they have, I think you could get a judge to shut this down.
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I hope you’re able to reunite.
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people can be heartless that’s for sure.
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Thank you. I appreciate your help.
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You’re welcome. I hope you can write again with good news.
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I am writing back with good news! On the appeal, the judge read through the entire text message record between my wife and found no evidence of threatening or abusive behavior. My charges were dismissed!
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That’s the most conscientious judge I’ve ever heard of. Congratulations, Craig.
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She had taunted me repeatedly over a week and had made several threats against me. I was at a point of severe depression and hopelessness. My exact text messages were “Fuck it”, ” Fuck you”, and “Fuck it all”.
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I’m not an attorney, but my thought would be to contextualize these remarks as responses to abuse (that was intended to make you “slip up”).
Courthouses administer dummy justice. A judge (some guy who may have barely graduated high school) isn’t going to think about context or suspect a woman who got a protection order. The judge is just going to say bad words are abusive.
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The terms were that I was allowed non-threatening, non-abusive, daytime phone contact. The judge decided that the use of profanity was abusive.
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That’s a subjective interpretation, clearly, but it may not be a ruling another judge would question. I guess you could argue context. Were you baited or taunted?
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If you want to get picky (and this is what lawyers are for), there’s a big difference between “Fuck you!” or “Go fuck yourself!” and “fuck.” You could argue it’s not “abusive” to say, for example, “I don’t give a fuck” or “What the fuck?”
The word fuck is in the dictionary.
Judges’ latitude is broad. That’s the problem. Are you in Mississippi or another red state?
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I was recently imprisoned for 48 days awaiting trial for my wife’s accusations that I violated a protective order twice. I was found not guilty on her first charge but guilty on the second because I had used the F-word in a text message. During court, she lied multiple times while on the stand. We filed for an appeal. I can show that she also used profanity and that she lied about our interactions. I can also show that despite her ‘fear’ of me that she repeatedly requested that I meet her face-to-face and call her during hours that her restraining order clearly stated I could not speak with her. What should I do to help me win my appeal?
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Get an attorney’s help, ideally.
I’m confused about the order’s prohibitions. The order said communication was fine during certain hours?
You can be cited for violating a restraining order if the order says you can’t contact the plaintiff and you do anyway. But you can’t (properly) be cited for violating a restraining order because you used a four-letter word. Does the order prohibit profanity? That would probably be a violation of your First Amendment rights.
The judge said texting was okay but texting the f-word wasn’t?
The kind of enticement (keep that word in mind) you’re talking about is common, and I think you’re right that it plainly shows she wasn’t afraid.
Are you saying you were imprisoned for using the f-word?
Definitely talk to a lawyer. My impression is you’d want to argue that your wife attempted to bait you into a violation and then lied to have you charged when that didn’t work.
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State of Florida, Pinellas County
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My life was absolutely ruined…devastated by my brother, who apparently has some form of vendetta against me, by making a false and completely perjured affidavit on a domestic-violence restraining order. Thus he kept me from going to my own home, stating it was his home. It is not, he has his home few miles away. He stated I was violent and all sorts of complete off the wall statements under oath, each one a completely delusional. I was completely shocked and never could imagine the things he had sworn to. None had ever occurred and he formulated a picture of me as homeless, “living under a bridge or at the county jail”, I had escaped from a mental home and was on crack. I am a M.D., J.D. I have many properties and was quite successful. They never reached nor took the time to seek any truth. I went to my home to get my wallet and car so I could see my mother and ask what was with him. I was arrested for burglary, grand theft, violation of a restraining order…etc, etc. I would never have believed that could happen as I only obtained my own items and realized my Porsche was gone and he was in my bed. I was given no bail for 53 days, until I spent 15000.00 for legal help and got a 100,000.00 bail of which I immediately posted and could not go home and was given further orders I could not speak to my parents. My parents went to court and to the police to tell them this was a fabrication by my brother due to jealousy and they would not believe them. On Christmas my father was in the hospital and my mother wanted me to be with her We shared that holy night together until my brother found out and had me arrested, again no bond. Trial would take another 6 to 9 months so I gave them a guilty plea to get out. I am on a 3 year probation with felony convictions that have taken my ability to make a living. I can not practice law, med nor teach, of which I also did at college. It is shocking, but true, that I became a victim of someone who was previously arrested two times for domestic violence on his wife and another person. I have never been the least bit violent nor evil in any way and a little research would prove that but it was plead guilty and out of the jail or be innocent and sit there for 6 months at least. I figured the truth would be apparent and someone would intervene. I am waiting for some form of justice as I am now terminally ill from a broken heart. I can prove and willing to prove even take lie detector tests for truth to be unmasked but a conviction, taken from a totally innocent, as well as a very good person, was all they worked at getting. It causes me so much heartache as I was part of society and now I am a convicted burglar/ thief etc. There are so many discrepancies and I have no idea where all this hatred towards me has come from. I need some form of direction. I want to sue, get a reprieve and a complete investigation into the matter from some higher authority such as the feds. His house is full of my belongings and has quit claimed properties to himself forging my name. I am a victim everyday because of him and the judge who believed in his lies…HELP!!! I am on my last breath and dying without justice is a complete tragedy for my soul. Judah kissed Christ and was forever deemed evil. My brother made false affidavits promoted false witnessing, destroyed my life and has yet to be questioned. I can see they are now divided in the system that the truth is now apparent. I have another year to go so I am afraid to start legal proceedings and live like a hamster. I beg for justice!!!
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Jesus, Steven, AND you have a law degree AND an M.D. AND a Porsche AND could post a $100,000 bond?! That may be the most counterintuitive story I’ve heard yet—and I’ve heard some doozies, like vegetarian single moms and crippled seniors being falsely represented as “violent threats.” (A man’s doing this to a man—never mind his own brother—also makes your case exceptional.) What about getting an abler attorney? My reflex answer is usually to say that money can cure about any procedural abuse, but you’ve completely discredited that one. Have you considered an appeal and/or a motion for retrial to attack the original allegations? There may be grounds for a lawsuit, assuredly. You can’t sue for lying (perjury and false reporting), per se, but you’ve certainly endured injuries that would justify “intentional infliction of emotional distress” (like false imprisonment and loss of income and employability). Other torts that might apply are “fraud,” “false light,” and “abuse of process/malicious prosecution”—possibly “defamation,” too, if your brother misrepresented you outside of court besides inside it. If no legal recourse avails you—and you could bear the scrutiny—you could take your case to the papers. Alternatively, I’d be glad to post something here (send some more details and background). In my experience, though, liars, no matter how much heat they’re subjected to, don’t recant. The best hope of justice is through the courts—the source of the injustice. It’s totally maddening.
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What state are you in, Steven?
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Pinellas County, Clearwater, FLA
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i absolutely agree with you on every point. i have had the exact same experience that you have gone through. this handing out restraining orders are like handing out candy bars. i am in the same situation as you as i speak now, but those without money have no voice. i have been on notice two times now since her restraining has been in effect, while i am at home doing nothing. it just amazes me to know how easy it is for someone to come into court and be sworn in to say the truth and nothing but and the first answer to the first question that came out of the mouth of the party that has a restraining order against me is a lie and there is no way on this earth that the question could be twisted to suite the restrainer would be the truth. my order does not say i cannot talk to my pastor about this matter yet the police called me and said i cannot talk to my friend the pastor or i will be in violation of restraining order. this is just downright crazy.
The person that has a restraining order against me obtained the order as a ploy to stop me from asking her to pay me money i loaned to her. So now i cannot pursue her in any way in order to get my money back from her which is approximately $5805.00.
So now the legal system is protecting thieves instead of law abiding citizens. i won a case from her for unlawful detainer and was awarded $2305.00 and about one month before i was evicted from her house i loaned her $3500.00. which puts the whole amount she owes me is $5805.00 and the court says i cannot contact her in any way and almost goes so far as to not even think about her and the money she owes me.
this person is the perfect example of a “wolf in sheep’s clothing”.
this person sins like there is no tomorrow.
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Thank you for printing this.I myself was the victim of just such abuse of the system.I had a problem with an ex-boyfriend harassing me and so I filed for a restraining order.During the 2 weeks where there had been a tempoary order issued against him,he violated the order 5 times.Then,the day before the hearing to have an actual Restraining Order put into place,he filed for one against me(despite having violated the temporary order only minutes before filing!).His mother came into court as a witness and spewed several lies on the witness stand.Several times I pointed out ways that I could,if given another hearing,prove that she had lied numerous times.Instead,the judge chose to ignor me on every point,and even made a few lame attempts to debunk my dad’s testimony when I called him as a witness for my case.I was treated as the prosecution and thus all burden of evidence was put on me,while he had to prove absolutly nothing,despite the fact that he was filing against me as well.
There was a scene in the courtroom during the hearing that was frighteningly similar to the one depicted here:My ex was askes 6 times if he was afraid of me(note that he is 6ft.2in tall and weighs 220 lbs. of nearly pure muscle,whereas I am 5ft.2in. tall and weigh 100 lbs. and have absolutly no history of violent or threatening behavior)finally,after being informed that he would not be granted a restraining order unless he said that he was afraid of me,he suddenly realized that he was indeed dreadfully in fear for his safety and that of his mother as well.
A few months after this joke of a legal hearing,he stopped me on the street and asked me to take him back,swearing that he would have the order removed.He lied twice about having taken care of it,and both times I was arressted for violating the restraining order,even though on both occassions he admitted to police that he had lied to me about having the order removed.His mother admitted in a taped conversation while I was in jail that the real reason the order had ever been filed was to get revenge because I had turned her in once as she was guilty of gross disability fraud.Non of this mattered when I brought it to the court’s attention.The bottom line was that he had been granted a restaining order and I had violated it by being with him.The fact that he clearly lied about being afraid of me was noted by the district attorney.Apparently pergery is quite the acceptable thing.So is telling someone that the order has been removed,and then inviting them into your home/car etc… and thus setting the person up to be arrested(which would be Entrapment if it were to be done by any sort of law enforcment agent).
As angry as I may be toward him for the lies,and myself for being stupid enough to have trusted him twice,the real problem here is the court system amd law enforcment.They are the ones who not only allow,but encourage and asssist those who commit the crime of pergery.They have given this guy the power to continue to abuse me through slander and even imprisionment with absolutly no threat of consiquence whatsoever.
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What amazes me is that more people who are subjected to these abuses don’t lose it. I know you’ve probably represented yourself as more reconciled to all this than you really are. I don’t even know what to say when someone tells me something like this. I’m sorry doesn’t really cut it. This is your LIFE that the state has played yo-yo with. What you’re saying would be OBVIOUSLY TRUE in any forum but a courtroom and before any audience but a judge. What amazes me, too, is that no one cares. Even the ACLU plays dumb.
Here’s the question people who mindlessly perpetuate and defend these laws need to consider: What was the point of any of your suffering? Clearly the state has been put to some thousands of dollars in expenses. Your name and sanity have been assaulted. You feel distrust and disgust toward your own government. And what was any of this for? Was someone “protected”? No. Some people got paid for pulling at the seams of your life. That’s it. Now you have these obscenities pasted on your public record forever, have to repeatedly tell this story, and have to ignore what you’ve been put through and go on with your life in spite of it. What’s the court’s answer to that? Take up yoga? Get electroconvulsive therapy?
I’ve listened to NPR reporters talk about judicial charades in Russia not knowing the same things happen here. Right out in the open. Thousands of times a day.
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