Some posts on this site have concerned exposing and articulating legal frauds, and the challenges these acts face, such as distrust and disinterest from the public, and censorship from the powers that be. The focus of posts past has been divided between efforts to encourage the wronged to talk back and efforts to chasten the rigid views of those who would diminish, derogate, or dismiss their complaints.
This post is directed exclusively toward detractors, particularly dogmatic feminists and judges. This is what you need to understand. What you think motivates people to complain of legal abuse is wrong.
There are plenty of feminist attention-seekers, and they seem to be of the opinion that complainants of legal abuse are like them. They’re not. They’re people who want their lives back. They’re not interested in “debate” or a fan following; they want(ed) to be left alone.
Besides its direct consequences (i.e., privation), the pain of legal abuse is that it’s public. For its victims to openly acknowledge they’ve been abused, then, is to exacerbate their pain. This is not a decision made lightly or an undertaking embraced with gusto, which is why public complaints are few and often anonymous.
No one does this for shits and giggles.
Both feminists and judges may believe complainants of legal abuse are trying to “get even.” How, with a “blog” post—or with 100 “blog” posts? There is no “getting even.” People abused by legal process want relief from slurs and false allegations that are preserved as public records and that may have cost them everything. They want restoration.
A bizarre misconception prevails that the person who counter-accuses someone is hung up on that person. What s/he wants is that person (and the court) out of his or her life. But how is a falsely accused person to achieve that? Recourse to the law doesn’t avail, because law in this area has been corrupted. So s/he’s stuck (literally) with exposing the shenanigans of some cretin, creep, or kook who means absolutely nothing. S/he’s stuck because of what that cretin, creep, or kook took, whether that was his or her dignity, peace of mind, security, livelihood, property, or family (or all of the above).
Complainants of legal abuse may “live” under constant threat. One successful false accusation not only invites but may encourage an endless number, particularly from a “high-conflict” person. The only alternative for some to looking over their shoulders day and night is exposing their tormentors and making everything a matter of public accountability. It’s not about exhibitionism.
Knee-jerk feminists and judges want to believe complainants of injustice are enjoying a game and not that accusers are. The accused’s lives aren’t a game, and those lives have been hijacked. Many vocal feminists and all judges are paid to play games; the legally abused are not.
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*And if the “rantings” of the legally abused seem raw and unpolished, that’s why. They’re not professional disputants; they’re normal joes and janes who are distraught, anguished, or unhinged. Note: A person doesn’t endure these outrages and not become unhinged.
TALKING BACK to restraining orders 
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I was willing to take all that, arrest, loss of rights, paying for counseling, pay the courts, and even wait the 5 years to have all that expunged BUT she dragged me back into court after 3 years and was able to get 13 more years of the order based on her lies.
I had no choice but to fight back. I would prefer to be doing anything else with my time than what I am doing, filing a lawsuit and still fighting in the courts. These lies have taken a lot of my time, energy, and money and came with a lot of grief as well.
This is, like the article says, not showboating. I want to be left alone as well. Her lawyer tried to suggest I could have that already with the order in place, as though the order means so little. Un-fucking-real!!!
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Dean, here’s an example of an Arizona case that would support an appeal like yours. This is the kind of thing you’d want to look for from the court of appeals in your state (or a court in the same circuit of appeals).
https://talkingback2restrainingorders.files.wordpress.com/2016/01/2015-1-ca-cv-14-0595.pdf
This case echoes yours almost exactly. It’s about a couple who posted and handed out flyers critical of a doctor and his assistant.
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Oy Vey that’s what i have to say to this whole process..I am so sorry Todd that this is happening to you yet again..I want for you to have peace. i have gotten a lot more peace the last three months and am once again having a rabbi come to my home on Shabbat and praying and sharing a meal with me…I so wanted to hear good things from you for this new year and instead hear that you were arrested? I mean what is it with these people? I happened to draw a few good judges in my situation and one bad one, but it seems that men are the major targets in this situation and some women too like me who happened to fall in love with a crazy man. I don’t say this lightly because my own situation had to do with a person I was involved with as a relationship and I am the accused and he is the accuser but the end result is the same as your situation except that for the most part it is over for me. I cannot believe that because of this blog you are being arrested, well, actually I can believe it as our constitutional rights and the process of the first amendment are regularly being violated all across this so called great land….my butt this is a great land..I want out of here so badly but like you am stuck here…I wish that I could help with money to get the word out but thank God you have good people posting here like Matt Chan and such. I hope you are doing okay…and I hope that you get a good lawyer or people to help with you with this knee jerk situation. I for one appreciate you and this blog so very very much…I did repost this on my facebook page…it is so outrageious…of course it doesn’t help that a few bad apples like the truly abusive men and women mess it up for the rest of you guys and women like me..You are in my thoughts and prayers…keep us posted about what is happening..i don’t mind you emailing me at all in fact, I welcome it…God bless you Todd..the true God will do that eventually as what goes around does eventually come around….Baruch haShem..
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