June 5, 2014
A theme that emerges upon consideration of restraining order abuse is lack of empathy—from impulsive or false accusers and from those who abet them. Plaintiffs who act either spitefully or viciously seldom appreciate the ramifications of their actions. They may possess what we call a normal conscience but either don’t think or, in the heat […]
March 21, 2014
“At 7:30 a.m., an unknown male abducted Pamela at knifepoint while she fueled her car at a convenience store. The offender then forced her to drive to a bridge, where they crossed into a neighboring state. During the long ride, he choked her with a bicycle security chain and slashed her with a knife. “Next, […]
January 4, 2014
“This law needs to change. NOW! A very good friend of mine had a false PFA filed against her by her sister, causing her to lose her career as a police officer. I have seen firsthand how this can ruin someone’s life! Please help bring the true victims in these circumstances some justice!” —E-petition respondent […]
December 10, 2013
Restraining orders, which some have called blank checks to do malice, are marvelously versatile instruments. Consider, for example, that while they were conceived to deter stalkers from, say, hanging around other’s homes at night and propositioning them in the dark, they’re also easily obtained by stalkers to legitimate the same or similar conduct. Because restraining […]
December 1, 2013
Let’s get something clear: protests against restraining orders aren’t about restraining orders. Granted, it’s a violation against decency and all things American for the government to casually curtail citizens’ freedoms without even consulting them first. But, seriously, who cares if a judge says one adult can’t talk to some other adult? Objections to restraining orders […]
November 14, 2013
A principle of law that everyone ensnarled in any sort of legal shenanigan should be aware of is stare decisis. This Latin phrase means “to abide by, or adhere to, decided things” (Black’s Law Dictionary). Law proceeds and “evolves” in accordance with stare decisis. Anybody who’s read a Grisham novel or seen its screen adaptation […]
November 5, 2013
My previous post concerned lying to get restraining orders, how easily frauds are put over, and the possible value to recipients of false restraining orders of lying better than their accusers. The quoted phrase in this post’s title, slightly censored, represents an actual search term that has brought several such recipients to this blog. Among […]
March 5, 2013
The 148 search engine terms that appear below—at least one to two dozen of which concern false allegations—are ones that brought readers to this blog between the hours of 12 a.m. and 7:21 p.m. yesterday (and don’t include an additional 49 “unknown search terms”). Were it the case that only 12 of the thousands of […]
February 21, 2013
Whoever came up with restraining orders must have been a marvel at Twister. Though they’re billed as civil instruments, restraining orders threaten their recipients with criminal consequences and may be based on allegations of a criminal nature, for example, stalking, sexual harassment, the threat of violence, or assault. The standard of substantiation applied to criminal […]
November 30, 2012
Someone asks: “Can I be charged for talking to someone I put a protective order against?” Someone else asks: “What to do when [the] petitioner contacts you under a restraining order to tell you she loves you?” Search engine queries like these regularly lead readers to this blog. Along similar lines, one reader reports his […]
November 25, 2012
This blog was “liked” this week by a blogger whose collegiate disciplines are criminology and sociology. In her own blogs, she tracks news of interest to students of these fields that relates especially to social justice and gender-based violence and oppression (phrases that are often mistaken as exclusively concerning the same thing). Contrasting her blogs’ contents […]
November 14, 2012
Someone writes (in reply to an earlier commenter): “I too am a victim of a false order of protection and have the same judge. My story is an unbelievable loss of rights with no possible outcome of justice. As I am fearful that publicly telling my story would result in retribution from the judge, I […]
November 9, 2012
I corresponded this year with a woman who was accused of domestic violence by a man against whom the most aggressive act she had made was giving him a friendly hug at a class reunion. This woman was a former city official who walked dogs to raise money for animal shelters and had once volunteered […]
November 4, 2012
Someone writes: “I made false allegations to obtain a PPO [an order of protection]. What do I do?” Disappointingly, this is the first such query this blog has received. Hearteningly, it’s something. And this person should congratulate him- or herself on having a belated pang of conscience. The ethical, if facile, answer to his or […]
October 31, 2012
A woman writes: “What was the legislative intent of having the petitioner sign under oath in a civil TRO [temporary restraining order]…?” The question seems ingenuous enough. The answer, obvious to anyone who’s run afoul of the restraining order racket, is that people lie. Less ingenuous is the state’s faith that a warning against perjury […]
October 29, 2012
Their administration is both biased and anti-feminist The justice system takes it as axiomatic that plaintiffs who say they are victims are victims, especially when these plaintiffs are female. This policy ignores the obvious, namely, that people lie. Moreover, the court’s showing partiality toward female plaintiffs to redress a perceived inequity between the sexes only […]
October 13, 2012
“I’ve never been treated like that in my life! I felt like a sex offender.” That was the reaction of a Georgia man, a former English teacher and aspiring songwriter who speaks with a gentle drawl, after his appeals hearing for a restraining order spitefully filed by his on-again, off-again girlfriend (whose mental stability was […]
May 22, 2012
Most people don’t know they can represent themselves in a lawsuit. If there’s one thing you should take away from this post, it’s this: you can. It’s a constitutional right. Only the county prosecutor can litigate charges of felony perjury (lying to the court), so if someone has lied about you to obtain a restraining […]
March 31, 2012
“Few lives, if any, have been saved, but much harm, and possibly loss of lives, has come from the issuance of restraining orders.” —Justice Milton Raphaelson (upon his retirement) As shields to deflect fists or bullets, court injunctions are no more effective than the paper they’re printed on. When they’re taken out for the purpose for […]
March 28, 2012
Restraining orders may be obtained by anyone on a modicum of evidence—sometimes a vague claim of fear suffices—and for the modest outlay of a few minutes’ time. The application takes about 15 minutes to fill out and possibly even fewer to “substantiate” in an interview with a judge (you sit in a wooden pew or […]
February 27, 2012
I encourage anyone with a story to tell to share it here (subject to editorial review) or to start a blog of his or her own. Details of restraining order cases are public record in the United States (which is among the reasons court abuses are so injurious), and speech is still free. Truth is […]
August 25, 2011
Put yourself in an adversarial frame of mind. Have no illusions, this is war, and emotions are your biggest enemy. Squelch feelings of anger, embarrassment, intimidation, betrayal, or residual affection for the restraining order applicant, as well as any natural inclinations toward chivalry or charity you may have. Don’t under any circumstances communicate with or […]
August 23, 2011
The brief, unedited accounts and pleas for justice and legislative representation that follow are drawn from an online petition titled, “Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence.” They represent its most recent four months’ responses only. Worthy of note is that at least 25% of responses are from women (some themselves victims of restraining order abuse) […]
See this post, especially, which summarizes much of what these topical editorials concern and may be of value to anyone desperate to explain to a family member, friend, significant other, teacher, spiritual adviser, counselor, employer, attorney, or journalist how s/he’s been wrongly represented and injured. Few people who haven't been abused by them know restraining orders are abused; fewer still how they’re abused or why.
Those with restraining order cases pending are prompted to consult the blog’s Q & A page. Corrections to its author’s interpretations and grudging knowledge, incidentally, are always welcomed.
Since laws concerning restraining orders, their implementation and customs, and different means to combat them can vary from state to state, visitors are also urged to investigate and familiarize themselves with the rules that obtain in their home jurisdictions.
They’re further urged to secure the counsel of a qualified, reliable, and ethical attorney if at all within their means (some do exist).
The restraining order racket is a rigged game that tends to reward inveterate liars and their invertebrate minions.
The truth won’t set you free.
It shouldn't be this easy to make a judge your bully.