June 28, 2015
The ambition of this post, an intermission between considerations of graver subjects, is to dispel restraining order defendants’ faith in the value of “truth.” Defendants are led to believe that if they’re truthful in the defiance of lies or hyped allegations, all will turn out as it should. But truth is a false idol that […]
June 26, 2015
“I hate this world and almost everybody in it. People use each other. I find most of you disgusting. My brothers are disgusting. The people I used to work with are disgusting. You’re shallow, you’re two-faced and hypocritical, you’re judgmental, you cause me more pain than you could ever possibly know. You don’t want me […]
June 23, 2015
The author of this guest commentary is a Virginia man whose wife obtained “three temporary restraining orders against [him], and finally got a permanent restraining order imposed against [him] in Colorado in January 2015, based on a claim of domestic abuse, stalking, sexual assault, and physical assault,” a claim made seven months after she had […]
June 22, 2015
According to a critic of the last post, restraining order abuse is apolitical, and he rejects the writer for not striving “to build a broad, non-ideological [base?] for real restraining order reform.” This is not—or it shouldn’t be—an ideological issue. It’s an issue that affects liberals and conservatives alike, and a problem in liberal and […]
June 20, 2015
I’ve never liked guns. After having endured 10 years of legal abuse, however, and consequently having revised my faith in people and government, I’m ambivalent. Process is dumb, and rights we believe are sacrosanct are violated casually. I’ve always been drawn to “NPR values,” also. Now I’m ambivalent about them, too. (Liberal, like the word feminist, […]
June 20, 2015
“Having demonstrated that the percentage of false sexual assault reports is not as high as many people think, this does not deny their terrible reality. We all know that false reports do really exist, and they are incredibly damaging both to criminal justice personnel and to the countless victims of sexual assault whose credibility they […]
June 18, 2015
“Could the number be between 3 and 8 percent? Absolutely. But it could be substantially higher than 8 percent; it could even be that 40 percent of rape accusations or more are false, though I’d bet against that. It’s possible that less than 3 percent of rape accusations are false, though again, I would offer […]
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See this post, especially, which summarizes much of what these topical editorials concern and may be of value to anyone desperate to explain to a family member, friend, significant other, teacher, spiritual adviser, counselor, employer, attorney, or journalist how s/he’s been wrongly represented and injured. Few people who haven't been abused by them know restraining orders are abused; fewer still how they’re abused or why.
Those with restraining order cases pending are prompted to consult the blog’s Q & A page. Corrections to its author’s interpretations and grudging knowledge, incidentally, are always welcomed.
Since laws concerning restraining orders, their implementation and customs, and different means to combat them can vary from state to state, visitors are also urged to investigate and familiarize themselves with the rules that obtain in their home jurisdictions.
They’re further urged to secure the counsel of a qualified, reliable, and ethical attorney if at all within their means (some do exist).
The restraining order racket is a rigged game that tends to reward inveterate liars and their invertebrate minions.
The truth won’t set you free.