Jamie Hargis Witmer LPC Condones Abuse: Victims Should Seek Help Elsewhere

The subject of this post, Jamie Hargis Witmer, is a licensed professional counselor (LPC) based in Tulsa, Oklahoma, where she shares offices with Sallie L. Trecek, LPC, who is herself distinguished as one of the best therapists in Tulsa by CareDash.com.

Jamie Witmer’s son, Daniel, is reported to be a convicted felon, and charges reportedly brought against him over the years have included DUI, public intoxication, assault and battery (including on a police officer), and domestic abuse. No fewer than six mug shots of his are pulled up by a simple Internet search. One would expect that would make Mrs. Witmer particularly sensitive to the effects of accusation on the family members of the accused.

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False accusations against the writer of this post by Mrs. Witmer’s niece (a few are highlighted in the text below) have been allowed to stand for 14 years. One would expect that if Mrs. Witmer were truly qualified in her profession, never mind as a human being (and a self-professed Christian), that sympathy for the writer’s mother if not for the writer himself would have motivated her to intercede.


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Below is what I was called by the married niece of Jamie Hargis Witmer, LPC, after her niece had taunted me for three months in 2005 with candid references to her body and underwear, outside of my house, in the dark, minus her wedding ring, while my mother was in chemotherapy, and I had invited the woman to explain.


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The message was communicated by email by Mrs. Witmer’s niece and her husband, a guy the niece had never mentioned, and it was sent to a police officer with whom the couple were on the phone as it was sent to me. An order of the court forbidding me from talking to the husband, a man I had never met, was petitioned earlier the same day by the niece.

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Ron Witmer, who runs an electronics store in Tulsa called Video Revolution

Tiffany Hargis (Bredfeldt) would go on to falsely accuse me broadly that year and for 10 years after to cover up her catting around behind her husband’s back. That includes to police in multiple jurisdictions, among them the FBI, and to judges who would end up numbering in the double digits.

Because I was nice to her. And because her family produced a monster.

I asked Jamie Witmer, LPC, and her husband, Ron Witmer, for help in the interim. None was offered or came. Ever.

During the 11 years of lies that corroded and diminished my life and my family’s lives, I would be surprised if Mrs. Witmer, who identifies herself as a behavioral health specialist, or her husband did anything but support their niece with sympathetic words of encouragement.

Here’s a brief synopsis of statements their niece gave in evidence to the court or, in one instance, to the police only between the years 2006 and 2017. The story they tell isn’t the half of it, but it’s short, and its contradictions are incontrovertible. The statements provide all the background the reader will require. The lies, which may have been spread by Jamie Witmer, LPC, to people I’ll never meet likely continue today.










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Michael Honeycutt, TCEQ, Texas Commission on Environmental Quality, EPA, Environmental Protection Agency, Tiffany Bredfeldt


These crackpot allegations (and many others) culminated in four separate lawsuits initiated against me almost simultaneously in 2016, two of which sought my imprisonment. It required two more years of my life to fend them off, working with my hands and back by day in the Arizona heat and poring over legal gobbledygook by night, while Jamie Witmer crooned solacing words in her air-conditioned office and probaby profited from it handsomely. My father meantime starved to death, alone. The upshot was that though her malicious vomit continues to coat my public record, all of Jamie Witmer’s disturbed niece’s charges were dismissed, an illegal injunction prohibiting me from reporting her fictions to the court was dissolved, and she was forced to renounce any and all legal claims against me.

Then her husband apparently dumped her.


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Maybe Mrs. Witmer would say she didn’t know.

Here’s what I know.

Jamie Hargis Witmer, Jamie Witmer, Jamie Hargis Witmer LPC, Jamie Witmer LPC, Jamie Witmer therapist, Tulsa, Tulsa OK I know, because I was told by a witness, that Jamie Witmer’s niece was an emotional mess as a child, a kid who would throw tantrums and even drop to the floor and flail her arms. I know from the same source that her friends were screened by her parents, Mrs. Witmer’s brother, Tim Hargis, and his wife, GaLyn Hargis, and that unsuitable candidates were rejected.

I know from Tiffany Hargis herself that she felt isolated and confined as a girl. She showed me a choker once that she had fashioned to remind herself of what it was to be “kept on a leash.” Maybe she meant that figuratively, and maybe she didn’t. She also said her parents, who are evangelical Christians, had made her feel “like a whore.”

Jamie Hargis Witmer, Jamie Witmer, Jamie Hargis Witmer LPC, Jamie Witmer LPC, Jamie Witmer therapist, Tulsa, Tulsa OKI know too from her that her grandfather, Jamie Witmer’s dad, I believe, killed himself. The impression I took from what she said about the gore he left behind for others to “clean up” was that her grandfather shot himself.

If I know these things, I’m confounded how Mrs. Witmer, who is a professional therapist, could have failed to recognize her niece was unbalanced and prone to attention-seeking histrionics that could only do harm.

Something else I know: Jamie Witmer has or has had close money ties with her brother and his family, which include or included a fourth-generation family cattle ranch.

I imagine money and the belief that you’re better than other people could be powerful motives for self-deception or distinterest in the damages that lies inflict.

I don’t know whether to hate Jamie Witmer for what may have been complicity or whether to simply resent her for complacency and indifference, and putting her own interests ahead of her professional ethics.

What I’m not uncertain about is that victims need the help of “licensed professional counselors” who are more than fee collectors.

From this writer’s perspective, Jamie Witmer, LPC, has merely profited by other’s suffering.

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Restraining Order Abuse and Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy

Since my companion died in August, I’ve doped myself before bed with genre fiction and a bottle of wine. After 10 years of legal assaults, including three simultaneous ones as of this writing, alcohol is the only thing that quiets my mind and affords me a few hours of oblivion. I’m into my third novel by thriller writer Gillian Flynn. (The movie Gone Girl, about a woman who fakes her death to frame her husband for murder, is based on a Flynn novel.)

Martina Walkingstick, Marty Grist, Marty Tackitt-Grist, Martha Grist, Martha Tackitt Grist

The woman in this photo, Marty Grist, has persecuted a friend of the writer’s for several years by lying about him in social media and on public record. Her reign of malicious self-publicity abruptly ended when she testified to a judge (the most recent of numerous) that he’d “hacked” her phone, computer, and email account (from his house across the street) and said she had some record (“someplace”) that proved he was a disbarred attorney who had “embezzled” from his clients (both serious charges and both false). She reported on Facebook, besides, that he had mooned her friends and provoked invisible dogs to howl at her for hours. She has two daughters and teaches children for a living. (The writer’s accuser, who was isolated as a child, is also the daughter of a schoolteacher.)

I won’t give away its plot, but her novel Sharp Objects involves “MBP” or Munchhausen (Syndrome) by Proxy. It’s a mental illness that induces a caretaker, usually a parent and usually the maternal parent, to sicken a child to get attention. Recall the movie Sixth Sense.

Flynn, besides being a delicious writer, plays rock-‘em-sock-‘em with feminist dogma. Her villains, who are seriously villainous, are all women.

If Flynn is a feminist, and I think she is, she’s the real thing. None of her female characters are weak, least of all the monstrous ones. I’d call her honest negotiation of male-female dynamics (thoughts, actions, interactions) “refreshing” if that word weren’t moldy. She’s bravely candid (she’s accurate), and she doesn’t play for (or pander to) a “team.” There’s nothing flinching about her or her writing.

Munchhausen by Proxy, pathological behavior that figures in her novel Sharp Objects, exemplifies (with science) that there are women who commit heinous abuses to draw attention to themselves and excite drama, and this is one of the motives the FBI remarks is common to cases of false accusation. It’s also a motive for bullying, which can include crying wolf  (BullyOnline.org, now defunct, formerly had a page devoted to MBP). The disease MBP is just a metaphor writ large for what women do when they go wrong: They poison. (Both false accusation and crying wolf figure in the plot of Flynn’s novel Gone Girl.)

Flynn’s stories involve violent murders by people of the “fairer sex,” but the female violence they portray best is the psychological kind: sinuous, spiteful, and constant.

Mainstream feminists militate against the notion that women are attention-oriented, competitive, or catty…or that they can lie unconscionably to exact petty revenge for some perceived slight.

That’s a fictional bubble in need of collision with a sharp object.

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Beating up Disabled Girls: False Allegations and Judicial Dishonor

“There is no normal. The rational has been torn away from your ability to grasp it.”

Cartoonist Scott Stantis (on growing up in an abusive household)

This is the sentiment shared by everyone who’s been wrongly blamed—and abused and condemned for it.

Consider that current restraining order and domestic violence legislation and policy are defended as protecting battered women and children. Consider further that honor is not only represented as the guiding principle of judicial conduct but that it’s the title that judges are expected to ceremoniously be addressed by.

Now consider this appeal posted three weeks ago (September 30, 2014) to the e-petition “Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence” by Phoenicia W. of Springfield, Missouri:

Hi im disabled 28 year old women. And just. Because. I was sick of being. Beat by my exboyfrend I kicked him out and he put fales charges on my cost me 10.000 dollars and I lost. Alot. How can his lies be taken. Off my record. Please. IV never. Even. Could. Hurt a fly please. I cry every. Nite. Help me.im incident I swere.

I’ve edited copy since I was teenager. Here’s what Phoenicia means:

Hi, I’m a disabled 28-year-old woman, and just because I was sick of being beaten by my ex-boyfriend [and] kicked him out…he put false charges on me that cost me $10,000—and I lost. A lot. How can his lies be taken off my record? Please. I’ve never even (and couldn’t) hurt a fly. Please. I cry every night. Help me. I’m innocent, I swear.

The gist of Mr. Stantis’s cartoon essay is that when you’re punished for something you didn’t do, and there’s no way to make sense of your situation or escape it, it “mangles the soul.”

My tidied version makes Phoenicia sound very able and together. Look again at the unedited script, though, which is a poem of pain.

Does it look and sound like it was authored by someone who could capably represent herself in court? For that matter, does it look and sound like it was authored by someone dangerous? Finally, how honorable is beating up (or beating down, if you prefer) a disabled girl and leaving her crying herself to sleep each night—a disabled girl, what’s more, who says she was beaten by the man who accused her of violence?

Feminists are urged to ask themselves which they think will have a more lasting consequence on this woman’s psyche: having been hit by an ex-boyfriend or living day and night with the court’s judgment? Which obviously haunts her? Which has healed, and which can’t heal? (When the court acts on lies by abusers, it compounds the abuse many times and makes it gnawing and constant: “There is no normal.” Ever. Again.)

You can’t relate pain like Phoenicia’s with a lurid picture of a black eye. Her pain and its source are invisible—and count on it that all traces of either have been carefully concealed beneath layers of judicial impression management.

If you’re not familiar with the phrase impression management, here’s an example: “She’ll be okay. She just ran into a door.”

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What’s Wrong with This Nativity Scene?: Abusing Restraining Orders to Destroy Young Mothers and Take Their Babies

I hadn’t intended to write anything more before the holiday than my little stab at humor. I’ve had my outrage doubly piqued recently, though, by two corresponding sources. One of these sources is the whatever-you-call-ems who want the Christ put back in Christmas, most of which zealots are Protestants—do they want the mass put back in Christmas, too? And the other is two people’s writing to tell me about naïve, young girls who’ve been exploited, impregnated, rejected, taunted, and manipulated only to then be fingered as unstable in restraining order cases so the fathers and those fathers’ parents could gain custody of the babies. One of the dads in these cases is the son of an evangelical Protestant minister.

On NPR the other day, I listened to a woman voice how fretted she was by a nativity scene on display (in Washington D.C., I think) that was made out of beer cans. (As I understood the story to report, it wasn’t even on public display; it was viewable by admission only.) The concern—the expressed one, anyhow—was that seeing beer cans could inspire kids to want beer. According to this logic, seeing a house of cards might inspire kids to gamble, and seeing a matchstick fort might lead them to become arsonists.

Consider whether you don’t think this kind of scenario is more likely to exert a detrimental influence on a child’s development (and whether Jesus wouldn’t have thought so):

“My 23-year-old daughter’s life has been ruined by a restraining order [that] was put on her by her abusive [boyfriend] after she had their baby. My daughter is African American, and the baby’s dad is Caucasian. He decided to just stop communicating with my daughter after she had the baby [except] to taunt her into calling and emailing him out of frustration. The baby came looking close enough to Caucasian…. [H]e and his parents…put a restraining order on her and ceased any communication with her. She didn’t get how serious the restraining order was and ended up in jail three times. The irony is that he was beating my daughter up before she had the child, and she protected him rather than put a restraining order on him.”

The boyfriend and his folks used the restraining order, which was petitioned on the grounds that it was harassing of this woman’s daughter to call and email the father of her child to talk about their baby, to leverage custody of the child.

An identical situation was shared with me a month or so ago. In that case, the boyfriend/father was the son of a Southern Baptist pastor. Naïve girl was sexually exploited, led on, baited, and framed, and now must fight off maliciously false allegations and fight for custody of her child. (Merry Xmas, Reverend.)

The people who imagine that restraining orders are golden shields that protect women from abuses are the same pop dogmatists who perceive pernicious influence in a beer-can crèche. Ideas, ladies (and gentlemen), ideas need to be vetted for correspondence with reality. Let’s stop finding menace in abstractions and start recognizing it in real life.

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“Overwhelmed, Outgunned, and Completely Disrespected”: One Woman’s Restraining Order Hell

I was recently emailed by a 50-year-old woman who desperately wants to see her mother before her mother dies. This woman, whom I’ll call Natasha, has been restrained by court injunction from entering, calling, or nearing her childhood home.

The restraining order was petitioned by her father, an attorney who has “unlimited resources.” Natasha herself is jobless for the first time in her life, and doesn’t have the means to hire a lawyer of her own.

Natasha’s mother was hospitalized in September 2011 for over 70 days in intensive care. Natasha didn’t learn about her mother’s condition for three weeks, because her father and brothers, whom she alleges had psychologically and physically abused her, didn’t want her around. She says the physical abuse, doled out over two decades, was at the hands of her brothers and that this abuse was tacitly condoned by her father and sometimes explicitly sanctioned. “Far worse, though, was the psychological abuse from my father,” Natasha says, “who told me I was lying, it didn’t happen, it wasn’t that bad, I must have done something to deserve it.”

Natasha has lived separately from her family for over 15 years.

Natasha stayed with her mother throughout her hospitalization, while her father and brothers merely checked in for a few minutes at a time (always as a group). Her mother’s doctors told her “that there was a 100% chance my mother would not survive. For the next 45 days, I sat at her side and held her hand while her heart stopped and started back up. I was not going to let her die alone in a hospital if I could help it.”

Her mother lived.

Once her mother was discharged, however, Natasha says she was only able to visit her three times before her father applied for a restraining order to drive her off. Telephone calls she made to her mother prior to the court order’s being issued weren’t put through.

“But every time I talked to her, she told me without prompting that she missed me and wished she heard from me more often,” Natasha writes. She also says her mother, who is paralyzed, told her she has to invent complaints just to get her sons to come into her room to see her.

Natasha’s brothers, 33 and 49, live with their parents and have never worked.

Despite the household presence of his two adult sons, Natasha’s father, who hired an attorney to prosecute his case and who is himself a well known lawyer in the local probate court, readily convinced a judge that he was a victim of elder abuse, that he was afraid of his daughter, and that she had tried to extort money from him. Also that she “could not appreciate” the precariousness of her mother’s condition. “He lied in his request everywhere,” she says.

Natasha even reports that she “filed restraining order requests” against her father first but that the court has refused to hear them.

She hasn’t seen her mother, who has undergone another life-threatening surgery since Natasha was issued a restraining order, for nearly a year.

“I just want to spend some time with my mother,” she says. “I am afraid I will never see her again. I know I will not be allowed to attend her funeral. I am so angry, so frustrated, so hurt, and so powerless to do anything.”

She says she intends to file a complaint against her father with the state bar association. And maybe another against the judge who has disregarded her petitions.

Guess how effective that will be.

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