An Aggressive Approach to Restraining Order Policy Reform: Threaten to Sue the State Courts Administrator in Federal Court

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Restraining orders are public records, and recent posts have concerned or commented on their publicity and the unavailability of having their traces expunged even if orders are dismissed by their petitioners or otherwise vacated. This post highlights the pioneering efforts of one Missouri civil rights lawyer to upset the imbalance by threatening to file a federal lawsuit.

“Unless expunged, criminal case records remain online, even if prosecutors drop the charges. Civil lawsuits [which include restraining orders] stay on Case.net even if a judge dismisses the claims, [Kansas City media attorney Jean Maneke] noted.

“‘Openness is generally a better way to clean up concerns about inaccuracy than attempting to put everything back in a box,’ Maneke said.”

—“Pending Protection Orders Yanked from Public View”

Everyone is entitled to his or her opinion. “Bullshit” is this writer’s opinion of the one quoted above. If you’ve been wrongly implicated in an abuse of process (or several), you probably disagree with views like Ms. Maneke’s, too, and believe that lies should never have been taken out of the box in the first place let alone engraved in databases and preserved indefinitely for public scrutiny.

Here are among what views like Ms. Maneke’s ignore:

  1. Restraining orders aren’t criminal cases, so they can never be expunged. Even if a judge dismisses (“tosses”) the allegations, only Tennessee has legislation that affords a wronged defendant the opportunity to have the case against him or her erased from the public record. Many orders, moreover, are finalized despite being grounded on fraud.
  2. Restraining orders aren’t criminal cases, but they’re not strictly civil cases, either. Acts imputed to defendants are often, if not typically, criminal (e.g., harassment, sexual harassment, stalking, terroristic threats, assault, battery, child abuse, sexual violence, or domestic violence).
  3. Unlike in other kinds of civil cases, a restraining order judgment may be wordless and formed in mere minutes, and the defendant may never be heard from at all. (An order can be obtained in a county or state other than the one a defendant resides in, so s/he may have no practicable opportunity to defend.) Also, an order may be awarded even though some of what may be many allegations are never considered by the court or are determined to be baseless. An approved order is an approved order. There aren’t necessarily any qualifications from the court on the recorded instrument to indicate which claims it regarded to be real and urgent, which suspect, or which baseless. To a third-party reader of the order, then, the accusations that appear on it are taken at face value.
  4. The mere title of an order may be prejudicial all by itself, regardless of the facts litigated in court.

The story the epigraph was excerpted from begins like this:

The client couldn’t stand it.

He typed his name into Case.net and up popped an ugly classification: “Protection Order: Adult Abuse Stalking.”

Who needs any more than those five words to form a conclusion about the person they were applied to? The case was dropped by the woman who made the accusation, but those five words nevertheless remained on the Internet.

The man was naturally concerned about the affect those words could have on his business and asked his lawyer to intervene.

[Bevis] Schock, a St. Louis attorney, [drafted] a federal equal protection lawsuit against the Office of State Courts Administrator. He never filed it, because four months later a Missouri Supreme Court committee decided privacy concerns trumped the public nature of this type of electronic court records.

Now pending orders of protection don’t appear on Case.net until judges grant full orders of protection.

The policy shift isn’t unopposed, but today “if the judge denies a petition or the filing party drops her request, it won’t ever appear online [and the] rule change is retroactive; OSCA scrubbed any previous ex parte orders from Case.net, including those involving Schock’s client.”

Schock said he spent 40 to 50 unpaid hours drafting an 18-page federal lawsuit against Greg Linhares, state courts administrator. Among other arguments, the lawsuit claimed the prior public records rule treats respondents differently than petitioners, because respondents are named online but petitioners are not.

The federal 2005 Violence Against Women Act prohibits states from publishing online any identifying information about people seeking protection.

Remarkable is that it takes the threat of a federal lawsuit to alert the courts to an obvious inequity. (Note, too, that finalized orders remain online, even though they may have been based on false allegations, and that even dismissed orders are preserved and can be accessed at the courthouse.)

The story is recommended reading. It notes in passing several facts about the process that are rarely observed, for example, that plaintiffs may file “seven or eight orders of protection” only to have them dismissed.

Under Missouri’s former policy, all of these dismissed petitions would have been visible online.

Unsurprisingly, a staff attorney with the Domestic Violence Unit at Legal Services of Southern Missouri is quoted as expressing the conviction that a “history” like this is indicative of true victimhood.

It can also be indicative of persecution by a venal and vindictive ex, vexatious neighbor, or fixated nutcase.

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28 thoughts on “An Aggressive Approach to Restraining Order Policy Reform: Threaten to Sue the State Courts Administrator in Federal Court”

  1. As I said, I am new to wordpress – but have experience in the legal system where things are broken. I assist people but never say I am a lawyer. I teach them how to do their own research and edit papers for friends – some are lawyers. Many states hate what I do and threaten me with UPL – the unauthorized practice of law. I have several writs or letter briefs on the web under academia.edu irwin ironstone that justify one friend assisting another in court. That is what the US Supreme Court has written. look for assistance of counsel, I asked the florida bar to assist me in defining what they consider UPL and they refused. Florida is especially hostile and want to keep Florida law a monopoly – The middle class and the poor cannot afford lawyers …. and the Florida bar was sued on just this issue years ago. Things have not changed at this time.

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    2. A talented attorney told me something very eye-opening yesterday. I’d always assumed that lawyers were limited to practice in one state only because laws could differ radically from one to the next. No, he said, it’s because state lawyers don’t want competition from out-of-state lawyers. That’s what all those laws are about that limit an attorney’s sphere of practice: franchise, monopoly, minimizing business competitors.

      I’ll try to remember to send you an invitation to “contribute” in case you’d like to publish here. You’re welcome, as far as I’m concerned, to self-promote. People are bewildered by this process and desperate for any available assistance that’s within reach. (If you submit a post, leave a comment so I’ll know.)

      The same gifted lawyer I talked to yesterday also told me this: “You get the justice you can afford.”

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  2. Here is Arizona procedure:

    Public Access. By administrative order of the presiding judge or local rule, upon commencement of an action, the filing of a pleading pursuant to Rule 24 or the filing of a Petition for an Order of Protection or a Petition for Injunction Against Harassment, all court documents, records and evidence related thereto shall be unavailable to the general public until the affidavit of service thereof is filed, or forty-five (45) days have passed since the filing of the petition with the court, whichever occurs first. The foregoing notwithstanding, judicial officers, court and clerk’s office personnel, case parties and their associated attorneys of record, and any other persons as ordered by the court may have access to the documents in a manner determined by the clerk of court at any time.

    Once an order is served, it becomes a publicly accessible record.

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  3. I left a full history of everything. I was given a PROTECTION ORDER because of txtn and calling her. Since she is at the top of her career at a federal credit union making $175,000, if any information got out about the real her, they would most likely wonder if they can trust someone who is a liar, maybe being ordered to get blood work. It would question her credibility. Just like the other two douchebags. If I stand for nothing, then I don’t stand at all. Just because she has money, she violate. This Judge said I was denied because she wasn’t bound by the agreement only I was and I consented. The Judge just lied. My ex’s lawyer and I approached her bench to tell her that we came to an agreement that if she writes what is on the papers because it caused issues at work that’s why I needed her to write this. The Judge agreed to this agreement and asked her and I if we understand and court was over. Since she violated our agreement which is the only reason I said I would agree, and nothing happens to her. WTF. I have been through so much that I lost my social life, I lost the feeling of enjoyment. Seeing Dr’s taking medicine scared to leave my house. Eating, what’s that? Sleep, never heard of it. I am looking into mental facilities because Idk why, but my mind is so f-ed up. Before I react in away similar to revenge, I need to get my life back. It cracks me up how courts have no guilt, shame or remorse. I will never get a fair anything. Money talks.

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    1. Right. Do you have a digital recording of the trial in which the deal was struck? If the record contradicts what the judge subsequently said, then the judge is at fault.

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  4. AFter seeing what goes on in the bars and in courts, I would suggest eliminating any type of judicial immunity and hold lawyers feet to the fire.
    I have been involved in too many actions where both the judge and the lawyers are guilty of gross terminological inexactitudes.
    My Florida bar hearing was a joke in that the prosecutor misstated and knowingly failed to correct his misstatments when he was notified. This violates Rules of professional conduct. When I pointed this out to the Florida Supreme Court and asked for sanctions, they issued an order asking why I should not be sanctioned.
    One issue in the FBBE the florida board of bar examiners is that the entire record never goes to the florida supreme court. this is a due process issue but why stop there. the same set of misstatements or new misstatements were issued by the New York board and it appears that I must have been at a different hearing based upon their misstatements and the approvalof these misstatements by the highest courts in New York and Florida.
    The next step was to go to the SCOTUS where they do not sanction state courts for their misstatements and lies. The possibility of a non attorney reaching SCOTUS is about 1 in 10,000 – the result is that the rulings of SCOTUS are frequently not followed by the highest state courts and there are no consequences.
    In order to change the way state courts are evaluated would take a congressional act or a constitutional amendment.

    It may be easier to allow appellate jurisdiction by congress – to allow actons to be reviewed by federal appellate courts rather than requiring a very busy SCOTUS to reject valid claims. Some appellate judges say that they are on 250 panels per year. this is three times the number that the SCOTUS hears. By making a shift in appellate jurisdiciton, or redirecting the Rooker Feldman doctrine again, the SCOTUS might be able to expand the courts that can hear actions where state courts screw up (knowingly).

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      1. they took four years to gather information and they did like the issues that I raised. I sued about 5 judges related to my divorce action and they said I was not contrite. after going through a divorce, I am shocked that more judges are not shot or drawn and quartered.

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        1. I have a feeling if you hung around a courthouse, you wouldn’t have any problem collecting enough signatures to get that proposition on the ballot.

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    2. Hopefully using a computer instead of my phone will correct the issue. Wow!!!! I just read your last post about you and FL as well NYC. This honestly sucks. Your career and omg I forget his name now! Anyway, the one that just started his own blog for helping other’s. I am so sick of this. I can’t even imagine going through this for 7 years or maybe 9, idk I can’t remember anything or concentrate, plus being on medication I don’t even know who I am anymore. That is F-ing scary. Try to be brief, real brief. April 25, 2015 Hired by my Employer. Interview lasted 10 minutes because, being into Sports and Fitness, moving to South Fl in 2004 or 2005 having a very successful Fitness Career, I was obviously hired for my appearance since I would be working for Nutritional Corp. not Vitamin Shop. I am a Behavioral Coach who moved back home to be around his niece’s and nephew’s. I never thought I would be my age never married nor any children. I lost my Fiance to a Brain Aneurysm in 2000 and something. She passed away while being intimate with each other. I thought that was hard to get over and experienced the same symptoms that I have now. When I realized that I was being selfish, I got sober and dedicated my life to helping other’s who suffer like I once did. I was offered a Job at the #1 Foundation in the USA, however turned it down. I was so lonely and since my parents are amazing and living the dream, I decided I needed to be back were I grew up so I could at least watch my pride and joys grow up and be there for them. I started the search for a position in the field I work in because it takes time. In the mean time, I needed to work, so after being told LIES AFTER LIES FROM THE REGIONAL MANAGER, I took the job. May 1, 2015 1st day of work. My Manager at the time I thought was ok. Young, of course always right and extremely jealous. He informed me, WHAT HAPPENS IN THIS STORE STAYS IN THIS STORE. He never wrote anyone up in the 7 years of being the manager there. We got off to a great start. Customers would come in saying, About time there is someone who looks like they live at the gym and attractive. LOL It pissed him off big time. June 26ish, 2015 my manager started acted like a douchebag and treating like I was nothing. I followed policy for harassment. The harassment escalated, my Regional Manager(RM) not once would return my calls or txts. None of us ever expected me to do such an amazing job. I was promised to be promoted, just to be avoided. The harassment continued and I knew my manager was up to something. It sucks when Corp. probably has know clue that it was me turning our store around. It also sucks sucks driving to work everyday shaking wondering if you have a job. August 10, 2015 Written for 2 separate things. Dirty shirt and supposedly I don’t know how to count to 8, I was written up for miscounting a product at closing. Totally bullsh*t and my manager said, Kev it’s NO big deal! These are just written verbal warnings, I have your back, Why do you think I am so against you? Well I could sign them or not. The dirty shirt I just signed and the miscounted one my manager said I won’t send it in until Wednesday so you can think what you want to do. I came in on Wednesday, my manager said he was instructed to send them off by my RM with very nasty comments. August 12, 2015 10 pm I receive a phone call from my RM. He said that he just got off the phone with a customer who called Corp. on me saying I was inappropriate as in sexual harassment. I laughed because I knew that this was bogus. I asked my RM when? Who? He said that it was the 1st week in July and forgot her name!!!!! LMAO I said are you positive it was the 1st week and why are you just know all of the sudden telling me this? He said, yes definitely 1st week and I was busy. Well, I told him, it be kind of hard for me to sexually harass someone from AVALON NJ, I was on vacation the 1st week of July. Of course documents were removed and they said it was the 9th. I was told several times, all having to due with women, that I was inappropriate in someway, but it’s funny, I get written up for a dirty shirt, NOTHING happened to me about those false accusations. I found out that 2 similar incidents within 90 days your fired. My manager tried on August 14, 2015 by coming in at night taking a similar product. Sundays only the top sales person works all day. Morning procedure is, you just enter the Sku # into the computer write how many we have on the Shrink count form. At night is when we physically count them. If the guy who worked Sat. night forgot to do the count, I’d be fired. I notified my manager immediately in which he called me to say, DO NOT DO A PHYSICAL COUNT!!! YOU ARE WASTING TIME< GET THE STORE READY! Well I did and found our highest ticket item one missing. He was pissed. I also found out, my RM never told my manager to send those write ups in, in fact he had no clue he wrote me up. I found out if I was promoted, his bonus wouldn't be as big. August 14ish, 2015 I met this amazing woman from MD. She told me she was 38 and made a lot of money. Very attractive and very, very fake. Everywhere. This woman was the happiest thing since Éclair Ice cream Pops. Living in MD and I lived in Pa, it was difficult to just go and see her. We both took Labor Day weekend off and I drove to her place and stayed there. We had a great time except for the fact when I asked her why isn't she taking any pictures. So I took some and sent them to her phone and said put them on FB. The whole weekend was sleep sex eat sex go out to eat intense sex, then bed. I left The Tuesday of the week of 9/11/2015. We talked all week cause Fri. was my b-day however I had to work Sat. and Sun. so we made plans for the following weekend. She called me at 12:01 am to be the 1st to say Happy B-day and Fri. night at 9 pm we were talking and she said she was going to go get a shower and send you a b-day present. Well 9;30 came, 9;45 , 10pm, 10:30pm and she never answered her phone or txt. I was going to surprise her Sat. morning cause I got someone to cover my shifts. She called me at 8pm flipping out telling me she fell asleep. Yeah OK! when I said I have a surprise for you and told her I am about to leave to come see you, OMG I never heard someone stumble over words and lies like her. She told me you can't!! I said why? My father was rushed to the hospital last night at 2pm. I asked her how do you know you just woke up. She said her phone woke her up. WelI now she turns it off and after saying I will come down for support or wait at your house, she said I am sleeping at the hospital. I asked what hospital, she said, I am not telling you. So I called my manager and told him things didn't work out so I can work and he laughed because it's obvious. Anyway, following week I had no contact with her. the week after we spoke and what do you know, she begged me to come down. I knew she bought me this out of my price range cologne, so I said I would but I have no gas. She said, can you just get here and I will give you money? I said I think so as I had a full tank. When I got there, she gave me $140.00 plus that cologne. I put them in my trunk, she wasn't getting them back. I brought my work clothes with me and she put them away for me. Now before we had sex, I asked her if she had protection. She got very mad because why would I ask that if we are going to be together. I also asked her if she was clean and she replied yes. The whole weekend was sex, sex, sex, she worked Saturday and I just did stuff around the house. Before she left, I asked if it was cool to use her computer. She had no problem. I got on the computer and immediately she got an email that she has it to were it opens up over the screen your on. It was from a guy. It said, Sorry I couldn't make it. Please don't be mad. I will make it up to you. I looked and saw she has been emailing him for the past week every 10- 15 minutes. I saw an email to her 1 friend that read, Do you think Chris saw those pictures on FB of me and Kev. She came home and I was leaving. She asked to sit down and talk. So I did. I listened to her lies and got tired from listening. I said, you need some help dealing with your issue's. She agreed and said she would make an appt. I took a nap before I was suppose to leave. I woke up to a very nice surprise. It was to late to drive home so I went to bed. I had work so I got up at 5 am and grabbed my work clothes. When I went to get my socks in the drawer I found a new prescription for STD medicine. She just lied to me. I went to this free clinic and got tested and was positive. I txtd her to get tested, I tried calling her to tell her to get tested but she blocked me. I was pissed and she is the Head Manager at her Branch. If any of this got out that she lied about being 38 when she was 44 and lied about not being clean and lied about her dad supposedly being in the hospital, it would ruin her career. Working with millions of dollars and supposedly a Leader, it would affect her. At work I was being harassed to the point that if something didn't happen soon, I was locking the door and basically HEAD TO CONCRETE. 10/22/2015 she filed for this falsified POS. 10/24/2015 at 10 pm I received this POS. When I read that she had contact with my manager and he gave out my Personal info. I was pissed. Court was on 10/30/2015 a Friday. Monday of that week he knew that I knew and since my RM never came to resolve any issue's after numerous calls plus there best buddies, my RM is responsible for allowing the harassment to continue and now I had legal paperwork to prove that my manager was just talking smack about I have your back!!!! My manager as well as my RM needed to come up with something to save their Career's. Monday before court I worked. I wasn't goin to say anything, however my manager just attacked me verbally saying that a customer came in last week and said that you were showing him txt msgs of when I wrote you up for your dirty shirt. I told him, your shift is over and please leave. Well this dumbass just wouldn't stop. Finally, 1 hour later I said, its funny that you are trying so hard to get rid of me, when I know this and try to prepare myself each day. I told him that I knew he fixed #'s so it wouldn't look like I blew him away again for whatever week. He replied, I can't do that, but what do you have to say about showing personal info to a customer? I said, I have to say that of all computer geeks your not so observant. I bought a new phone 3 weeks ago and unfortunately text msgs are not saved. He was lost for words and left. I opened the store Tuesday and was clocked out ready to leave as he walked in. I said later. He said don't leave. I have to write you up for showing those txt msgs. This is when I had a Mental Breakdown blacked out and when I came to, he was laughing. I told him you can write them but I will put on there that your a Jealous individual who has committed computer fraud. I told him I am leaving because I need medical attention. My RM called me Wed. and left the nastiest msg saying that a Mental Illness is not an excusable excuse to be out of work. You need to be here Thurs. My Psychiatrist saw my physical and mental condition and said, I am removing you from that hostile work environment indefinitely. I saved his VM and txtd him that I will not be in Thurs. Dr's orders. I will fax you his letter. I knew they needed me in Thurs. to write me up for some BS. Friday 10/30/2015 Court. I immediately saw my ex and then her attorney. I just laughed. I was pulled aside by her attorney to tell me what happens at this proceeding. I never knew it went on my background. He said that it could end today if you both agree to stay away from each other. I asked him to bring my ex out. They had to get a Deputy to escort her to answer my question. I asked her, Why did you contact my employer? You have no clue what you have caused because of my manager doing what he did and giving you falsified info. to use against me in court as well as make there false allegations look true. She answered me with the most ridiculous answer which makes me think as well as my Therapist, if she called or did your employer go into your phone and get her #. Her reason was, he laughed at me. Seriously!!!!!! GROW UP! I said to them, I would agree if you write what is "only" on the "original" serving papers what my manager said. I need you today to write on a letterhead and Notarized then email me a copy by Monday and send original. She agreed and we went into court. When we were called, we had to approach the Judge to tell her the agreement we came to. I would have never agreed to nothing if I knew that the Judge could careless about my life. The Judge Agreed to this modification and we stepped back, both said that we understand the agreement and court was over. !!/15/2015 I finally received a revised copy of some letter were it's so obvious that she has been in contact with my employer, due to the new information in the letter. 11/31/2015 I noticed my FB account was hacked into in as well as my phone and all VM deleted including the very hostile RM's msg. I filed for a motion to Rescind 11/28/2015 but f-ed that up by my own wrong doing's. When I found out that I F-ed up in late Dec. 2015, I filed for another Motion to Rescind and it took them over a month to answer me wit, YOUR DENIED THE AGREEMENT WAS BOUND TO YOU AND ONLY YOU AND YOU CONSENTED. Ummmmm Hello Judgeaholic I believe you stated after we approached you, DO YOU BOTH UNDERSTAND THE AGREEMENT? I guess the word "both" in MD means, she has money and fake BOOBS. You have a nice body but no dinero. How am I suppose to keep my habit going when your a broke ass dude. At least she can hook a sister up and maybe pay for me to get some BOOBS!!!!!!!! She violated. Jail Biaaatch…. I have ben through a lot in my life, however never have I been so low to the point were people check on e daily just to make sure I am alive. It's also funny. they tried to say that they wanted me to put in my letter which was to say only that all pictures and videos are deleted. Now they want me to add that I won't come after her for her being a sex addict as well as alcoholic, popping pills every night, compulsive liar, and doesn't give a Fu*k that I can't work, suicidal, hopelessness, She only makes $175,000 a year and has 1 friend, her family despises her. Do you think she went and got help? Nahhhhhh, I have $$$$$$ I will help his employers so I have someone to testify against him. Well, I wrote everything I could. I filed for another motion already. I am also going to be writing a letter to someone to let them know that this Judge is a Feminist or just a Biaaatch.

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  5. mY PEN NAME IS irwin ironstone – I have been denied entry into three bars. Florida, New York, and Kentucky. I would have preferred that the entire records be put online. my evaluation was based on determinations where the Florida Board of Bar examiners lost records and then charged me with submitting false records. They used an order of proposed contempt where the judges “sworn certification” disagreed with the transcript and with what witnesses declared. We have to get away from judicial immunity because, in my experiences- there is no way to correct impressions or correct your character evaluation when both Florida and New York consider the hearings confidential.
    This determination is in conflict with several Scotus determination. But who follows the Supreme Court – when a state supreme Court rules otherwise. I have some of my papers and videos under Irwin ironstone on youtube and on academia.edu. What do you do when lawyers and judge lie and there is no way to go after them.

    Irwin r. Eisenstein (iron stone)

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    1. Todd, the reason why I asked was, I read everything, I mean everything you write because I will not stop until who did this to me is accountable and Justice is served, as well as I have no problem telling you online, however I thought I was responding at the appropriate place. I was wondering why I haven’t heard from you. When I get a new email from you it says, “Restrainingorderabuse.com then the topic of subject as well as a part of your reslonse. Then it says click here for full report which takes me to your blog and I read the whole reslonse. At the bottom there is a box were it says, Leave a reply. I leave a reply as well actually name, email and website. When I hit post comment it takes me to WordPress log in. I assumed I was logged in, but when I log in my message is erased. I have wrote it several times. I will do what you asked, in a chronicle way starting with with my hiring to court. I want everyone to know what I have been through. I cannot use my employer’s name but I work for a very well known Nutrition Corporation which is not the Vitamin Shop. I know a little bit about law since I used to be on the other otherside before moving to South FL aboutique 14 years ago, having my girlfriend die on top of me while being intimate. I am into Fitness and had a very successful Fitness Career as a Trainer, Fitness Model to starting my own business using Mind, Body,Soul Techniques. When she passed away I was on prescribed medication for tearing my lower back muscle. She went out with her girlfriends that night and when she came home I was asleep because to the medicine. She attempted to have sex and I attempted to stay awake. I thought I fell asleep for 10 – 15 minutes however, 7 hours later I woke up to her urine and fecal matter all over me, also her lifeless body still on top of me. She had a Brain Aneurysm. Died instantly. I can remember and feel every rib cracking as I attempted CPR. Since we didn’t have a joint checking account and the greedy get greedier, her mother, who was only worth $112 Million, wanted the checkbook. I said that I had money in the account however, her mother wouldn’t give me the $9,000 I had in the account. Since her mother and my girlfriend had a horrible relationship she wasn’t the beneficiary her friend was. Well having bills to pay, I forged her name on the checks. Her mother waited until it went to a Federal level then pressed charges. I was convicted ofor Conspiracy to Commit Wire Fraud. I dealt with her death in the beginning by self medicating. That lead to about 5-6 yrs of addiction. When I got sober, 6 years ago, I have turned my life around and my whole outlook on life changed 180%. I started working in Foundations and was blessed to be able to help so many people. Last year, Hazelton/Betty Ford Foundation heard me speak at a AA meeting and Offered me a job. Unfortunately, I had to turn it down due to having a blockage inside of me. My parents are living the dream and are amazing. Church abiding, volunteering and running Alanon. We grew up in Pa. and still had the house. They only used it for the holiday’s, so I worked something out with my father and moved back home last April. Plus I never thought I would be 42 never married nor children. So being near my nieces and nephews knowing Family is all you have, it was the best decision I made. Ok I will try and do that for you. Kevin

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      1. I’ll absorb this. To submit a comment, you don’t have to be logged in. I’m not sure how the procedure for contributing a post works, but it should be straightforward.

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      2. you have had a much more difficult time than I had. I am new to wordpress and blogging I am on academia.edu and youtube as irwin ironstone where I have posted lots of stuff

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  6. Whooo! That’s the ticket, Todd! We are, in essence fighting for our Constitutional Rights, and a lot of Constitutional rights could be taken away because people don’t know or don’t act on what they need to do to really get our rights back. Losing them in civil courts is really disgusting and uncalled for. This could be the toilet of the court system because they can just flush our rights away without even hearing what we are saying. So yes, I think this is right on track for what needs to be done. Thank you for a really great post. Long is OK; it is saying very important things. We have to get agressive and push back or these horrors will continue for all of us. Believe me, I truly know what it feels like to be a victim, and none of us need to go there any longer. We have to stop acting like victims and fight and push back and let them know we can deal with it from our end. Prisoners do it all the time, so why shouldn’t good citizens do it as well? Thank you very much. By the way, here in So CA, I am not having any troubles getting jobs because of the RO’s.

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  7. Todd I think you’re misunderstanding me. I haven’t talked to her since the beginning of October when all things started falling apart and I helped her in September when we were together. I don’t believe a word she says and that is why I stopped talking to her and text and called her because we were intimate and she wanted a child and that was the only reason I was calling to see if she was not pregnant. And then all this other bullshit happen which involved my douchebag manager and because he’s a short chubby fat fuck and I wish she was banging him unfortunately she’s so superficial and fake everything is fake, somehow my Mr Potato Head looking manager gave her information now weather he called her or she called him I don’t know. All I know is my facebook was hacked into and he was doing everything to save his job and has put me through hell as well as a leader of the company because he was very close with Humpty Dumpty and because of jealousy, greed and some crazy ass bich I mean she was pretty hot though to be honest, but I broke all ties with her when she made stories up at the end of September and obviously she lied about having a disease and seeing that prescription bottle kinda fucked my head up. I cut the bait I threw that Blowfish in because it has been caught too many times and released too many times it seems that Blowfish will eat any kind of bait. I understand where you’re coming from however, because of greed and jealousy it has completely ripped my life apart to the point where I am NOT supposed to be driving I am in counseling and it’s embarrassing because that’s what I do for a living. I just want my life back and I’m on the boat I cut my bait but I just don’t know how to get back. It was suggested by your self as well as a friend of the family who is a judge to file a motion to rescind the order because I and not a professional at restraining orders and I did not know they go on your record plus we had an agreement and I wanted that notarized so I could do what I needed to do. It’s obvious that because I have no attorney and this judge just let her violate and there was no consequences I am definitely going to be writing a letter to the higher ups and sending in all the emails from her lawyer as well as the original onto the final one. It’s apparently not worth trying to talk to the judge because she must be banging the attorney at some Chinese restaurant taking some chopsticks up her ass. Everything starts with the first something. 3 months I have basically been living in my room where I am a very active guy had a very successful fitness career in South Florida and had a very successful and yummy social life in Florida. I decided to move back home and purchase the house we were raised in because my parents are living the life that we all want to live one day. I never thought in a million years, especially doing what I do for a living and being very spiritual and always putting others first, never did I expect to have suicidal tendencies I mean I feel like I should be in a nut house with slobber dripping down my face. How a judge can deny me when she violated I will never understand and if I knew anything about restraining orders then yes you can call me stupid but I don’t go around harassing or doing those things because I don’t need to I’m not trying to sound conceited, but I am very confident and I love my job I was very grateful and nobody expected me to do as well as I did. Its funny to hear a customer walked in and say, finally I walk into this establishment and I see someone who looks like they live in the gym and is over 6 foot tall and clean cut, to hear those words and to see the look on my managers face cuz he’s chubby wubby is priceless however, he is the boss and his insecurities led to jealousy and my numbers were crushing his so he felt threatened and did what he had to do. How that stupid woman got involved, well I pretty much know why and how because he needed support for why he just gave out my information over the phone to someone he doesn’t know there is a zero tolerance for that and he’s fired immediately and the regional manager is demoted because he did not handle anything when I was called so they fucking ruined the last 3 almost 4 months and all I am trying to do is get my life back together that’s all. And I needed a first something and I got it when she violated and I did not expect what I received in the mail so you can call me stupid you can call me an idiot because I am however I don’t know anything about that shit and I definitely didn’t know that it would be on my record and I did not know a lot of stuff they say learn from your mistakes well I definitely have learned. I am running away but I will make sure justice is somehow served because I did not deserve any of this. Apologize I appreciate the positive affirmations but it is what it is and if I knew that she was a psycho I would never have involvedone. You usually find that shit out when they drink and get aggressive or when you get a loud knock on your door at 10 pm.

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    1. No problem. Maybe try to put this in an outline form so the chronology and cause-and-effect is clearer. No adjectives. I understand feminine crazy and that these abuses make you crazy.

      First what happened. Then?

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      2. If your asking me what happened, I filed Motion To Rescind my Order due to the fact that my ex’s Lawyer pulled me aside before it was our turn. He told me that my ex got a restraining order for txtn and calling. He then mentioned that this could end all court hearings now or you take it to trail. Since I couldn’t stand looking at her after the things I have done to her, while we were together. Her Lawyer said, if you agree to stay away from her, it will be over today. Since I lived in Pa and going through severe Mental issues, I just wanted this over. Because she contacted my employer, she said she called because she was mad my boss laughed. To be honest I think my manager called her, I told her attorney that I would agree only if she wrote what my Manager stated on the original papers, put on a letterhead, notarized and send me a copy via email by that Monday. The purpose of the letter was to have it on a letterhead, notarized so I could show it to my Regional manager to finally prove that my Manager was harassing me and trying to ruin me after being successful. Jealously makes you do things to ruin them and will go to any length, imagine it being your Manager!!! Nobody believed me, I documented everything and because of his behavior and not being promoted like promise, my Regional manager would make shit up. Falsified accusations saying a sexually harassed a woman as well I made a woman rush cause it was closing time. Nothing happened to me, however I was written up for a dirty shirt and miscounting. Things got so bad at work because of jealousy and greed. My Employers made those stories up, my manager broke a huge Company policy by telling my ex information via phone to help her win the case as well make their falsified accusations look good. Since my Manager new he has been their 10 yrs, my Regional manager 7 years and my ex was the Head Manager at her Branch, they all needed to save their asses because of the info I had would ruin their careers. I only agreed because I busted my ass and was used and treated so horrible. Trying to win a harassment case against your employer is extremely hard. I figured having as much info would help me. When she never sent the letter and I called her attorney so many times, I finally got a revised letter 2 weeks later which is so obvious that all 3 hoodlums are trying to get there stories straight. I filed that motion because the Judge new about our agreement and my ex violated. If it were you are I, we be in jail. Why isn’t she? Then I received the denial letter which stated it was bound to me and only me. What was our agreement for then? I wouldn’t have agreed to shit if I knew this would happen. I have read every article you sent me. The one were my ex can call my employer, however if it emplies me from doing my work I can take her to Civil Court. 3 months of researching everything on your blog to researching employer harassment, finding out they hacked into my phone got into my FB, Erased a huge VM, counseling medication trying to live, it’s fucking cruel and not cool. I am determined to at least have justice done. I know walking away is the best thing, however they have fucking ruined me to were I might not be able to think or function properly again. I am sorry to bother you. I needed to vent because of my mind. I know since I don’t have a lawyer I am being fucked right up my ass by the judge. How can you agree and the judge ok it, just to violate the agreement with no consequences?

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      3. Todd, I am sorry. Mr. Blakely…..your falsely wrong. It’s hard for me to make things brief. It’s embarrassing, but this is the effect caused by all of this. Maybe it’s easier to contact me somehow. I don’t want you upset, us I look like a douchebag due to all of this. If there is away to get you my number let me now. I seriously need some help. I am sorry for not being smartphone inclined. Lol Kevin

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  9. Hey Todd, I need a little assistance. I filed for a motion to rescind my order against well my girlfriend put a protection order on me for text messaging and phone calls because we were fighting and being intimate and not hearing from her in 3 weeks Plus her trying to get pregnant, of course I would be trying to get a hold of her and wonder why she is avoiding me. I received a protection order in October and had court on Friday October 30th in Maryland and I live in Pennsylvania. Before court started I was approached by her attorney and he told me I will being received this order because text messages and phone calls. He also told me if you guys agree to stay away from each other for one year it’s very easy you go in front of the judge and then you agree and then it’s over. Well I asked him her attorney if she could come out into the hallway because I had to ask her a question concerning why she would contact my employment which has now cause so much damage to me mentally that I have had suicidal tendencies I am seeing a psychiatrist plus a psychologist and I have to pay for all of this I have been out of work for over 3 months. So she came out with a deputy and I asked her, why would you call my employer? She told me because your boss laughed at me against well my girlfriend put a protection order on me for text messaging and phone calls because we were fighting and being intimate and not hearing from her in 3 weeks plus her trying to get pregnant, of course I would be trying to get a hold of her and wonder why she is avoiding me. I receive a protection order in October and had court on Friday October 30th in Maryland and I live in Pennsylvania. Before court started I was approached by her attorney and he told me I was being received this order because a text messages and phone calls. He also told me if you guys agree to say away from each other for one year it’s very easy you go in front of the judge and then you agree and then its over. Well I asked him her attorney if she could come out into the hallway because I had to ask her a question concerning why she would contact my employment which has now cause so much damage to me mentally that I have had suicidal tendencies I am seeing a psychiatrist plus they psychologist and I have to pay for all I have been out of work for over 3 months. So she came out with a deputy and I asked her, why would you call my employer? She told me because you’re boss last at me when you took all from work and supposedly her father was in the hospital which was a complete lie and she, let’s just say was preoccupied by someone else besides her boyfriend. So while we were in the hallway I told her attorney that she contacted my employer and my employer gave out personal information to use against me because my employer has been seriously harassing me do to my success and his jealousy as well as my regional manager being his best friend never answering my phone calls or my text messages and I followed the procedure for harassment I have document everything I have gotten written up and accuse of sexually harassing a woman however nothing came of that fault accusations and there has been so many other and it was obvious that since he gave her personal information over the phone, which is like the HEPA law , my manager knew he needed to get me to confess to something along the lines of giving out personal information and he verbally attacked me to the point where I had a breakdown and my doctor has removed me from the hostile work environment indefinitely all because of a phone call in which she said she called because he laughs. I I told the attorney that I would agree to stay away from her because I live in another state Plus she is full of lies I mean she lied about her age and the reason why I was calling her was for personal reasons and I did not want to embarrass her so I said I would agree if she wrote on a letterhead from her attorney’s office that day and send me a email of a copy so I would have it for Monday when I met with the regional manager. She agreed and when we had court, her attorney and I had to approach the judge and tell the judge we came to this Agreement and I agreed that I would not come near her because I didn’t want to in the first place however because of her calling my employer I needed her to write only what was on the original serving papers on a letterhead and notarized which they agreed and the judge approved it and court was over . Well I never received the letter, I called her attorney’s office numerous of times just to be told I am NOT a priority, I was emailed a first draft that obviously her attorney wrote because he is Korean or Chinese and I guess doesn’t know how to spell the American language yet. I replied saying, this is not what we agreed the only thing I want on the paper is the three sentences that are on the serving paper. Two weeks later I received a letter it was so revised and so obvious that my ex girlfriend has had contact with my employer due to the new information on this letter. I denied the letter and said, I only ask for three sentences and have it emailed to me by that following Monday here it is two weeks later and now this letter says my manager is willing to testify in court, it has down there that I have been accused of harassing numerous female customers not male customers but female customers. I said I am NOT accepting this and I filed for a motion to resend the order because the only reason I agreed was because of our agreement and she did not follow through and that is a violation. I received yesterday finally after sending another motion a couple days ago , a response from the judge saying I was denied because the petitioner is not bound by this order the order of plies only to the respondent and the respondent consented. I I’m asking for some help because being out of work over 3 months, my employer has me on a leave of absence and will not return my phone calls I have filed for workman’s comp and nothing. I only agreed because when I was being harassed I followed policy and when I tried to call my regional director he would just avoid me because of two reasons. 1 was he was avoiding me because I was told I was getting promoted and 2. My manager and regional manager are best friends. She was brought out before court with a deputy because I wanted to know why she would contact my employer and let her know what it has caused. My ex girlfriend told me the reason she contacted my employer was because he laughed at a situation between her and I. Which kind of fishy because my manager gave her information personal information about myself so she could use it in court as well as my facebook has been hacked and he is a computer geek and my facebook is permanently disabled I was lucky enough that my last day when he tried to get me to confess to me showing personal information through a text message on my phone a week prior and he just would not stop which led to me having a serious breakdown but he never let up. When I came to, I told him you are accusing me of showing a customer a text message from when you have written me up for a dirty shirt from July . I told him, if you notice I have bought a new phone and text messages are not saved. He knew he was screwed because giving out information about an employee because he was very jealous of my success and he was absolutely trying to defame me and give her information to use against me in court. It’s funny I only showed one person that text message and it was my ex girlfriend only because she knew how jealous he was and how he was trying to get me fired he was harassing me to the point of a breakdown and because of a phone call due to laughing, I have been out of work for over 3 months and I am paying everything out of pocket. I have just read this article and I honestly believe since I do not have the funds for an attorney that I I’m being treated so unfair and this has cause more damage to my mental health and if anybody has been through this so you know what I mean. All over text messaging phone call how is that violent or threatening you feel physically harmed. I don’t know where to turn. I don’t know if I’m coming or going. Why the judge would allow her to violate and no consequences in fact I’m the one who has to suffer is beyond me. I want to write her a letter the judge and ask her how can someone who gets a falsified restraining order who is a complete lying individual not do what our agreement was which you know about and you deny my order in fact you tell me she doesn’t have to do nothing she’s not bound by this. I would have never agreed if she did not say she would write the letter and since the letter took two weeks to get to me it is obvious that all three of them my manager, regional manager and ex girlfriend are very hi in their corporate field and it’s obvious that they are working together to save their asses. I have tried numerous times to call or text my regional manager and he would never answer. Its very funny I received this yesterday and I text him yesterday and what do you know he responded and told me to call him if I wanted to catch up. You think its a coincidence or bullsh*t. He knew I had this motion out and he would not apply to my phone call because he was waiting to see what would happen and now that I got denied he all the sudden answers me because he knows or at least he thinks he knows I can’t have this motion dropped. I am absolutely amazed at how the judicial system and how they gave her a restraining order against me because I wanted to know if she was pregnant and other personal reasons in no way was she ever in harm because she knows how I live my life as well as I just helped her once again supposedly see a psychologist for her issues. I have no idea what to do because obviously this judge and her attorney must be buddy buddy and maybe I need to go to a higher court I don’t know. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated because I want my life back and I don’t care and if it takes me years I know I am 100% right and I need to be put in touch with the right people or no the right thing to do. Thank you

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    1. 1. You got a protection order because you agreed to it. Stupid thing to do.
      2. She’s a liar but you continue to believe her. Even stupider thing to do.
      3. You continue to help her with her issues? Really? Stupidest thing ever.

      Cut ties… RUN…gethafuckottahere…fagetaboutit

      4. Shes screwin your manager ! Its not your baby.

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      1. LMAO.😂 I think you misunderstood me. I cut ties in the beginning of October 2015. However, I wasn’t going to allow this biaatch to just use me so she could get pregnant. That’s what is fucking me up. I stopped talking to her. Then .out of nowhere, I received that order, plus as I was reading it with the Sheriff’s (they even said ,”How can a woman get a protection order for someone calling and texting ” anyway what pissed me off was she called of my employer and I’m pretty sure it was the other way around because of the bullshit they have been putting me through because of my success which is really no big deal. So because this douchebag gave her personal information and all I wanted was it written on a letterhead and notarized so I could shove it in his face and say you really have my back you honestly aren’t trying to get rid of me? I know it might sound ridiculous and very immature because it is. Who would call someone’s girlfriend or even if she did call, I mean why would you say shit about me and then knowing that you most likely just lost your job, you needed to get me to confess so you could save your ass. I wanna let it go however, how the fuck can a judge tell me I am denied and she violated so what was the whole point of the agreement that we had? That is really messed up it’s being out of work they would not fire me because I would be able to collect unemployment and also you cannot retain a lawyer if you are still employed. Todd I have cut all ties with everyone, I have only tried to get ahold of my regional manager because I still am an employee there and I never did anything wrong and I would like to come back to work but I will never be treated fairly I will never feel safe with job security because they know of this obviously and I I understand 100% where you are coming from, but since I am NOT a professional with restraining orders I did not know they would be on my record and I did not know I would B fucking suicidal over all this and I don’t even want to see her but how can a judge deny me when she violated her own protection order. So does that mean I can do whatever I want just go and see her because it’s OK for her to do whatever she wants when there are conditions with the order and there’s no consequences for her that’s what is fucked up and you are absolutely right she probably is banging my boss which I could care less no she’s not banging him she’s too superficial I only date guys who are into the gym over 6 foot tall she thinks she is Jessica Biel when in reality she’s that turd coming out of my ass right now. I just want it to ask you only because my life has been completely ruined due to all of this and I am taking it moment by moment and I have paid so much money to see specialist which we should never of happened and because of jealousy and greed I’m in this position and its fucked up I just don’t understand how it’s okay to violate and no consequences handed out. Fuck relationships, can’t trust even some big girl who is a tick tack away from 300 pounds because she is most likely cheating on you and going to put a restraining order on you because you eat her pizza and fries along with the milkshake and a triple layer chocolate cake I bet she probably could get a restraining order for that. Anyway I have cut all ties I file the motion because that’s what was suggested only by another judge who is a friend of the family. I’m trying to get my life back and I cannot get it back when I am so fucked up in the head that I have contemplated going to where I used to work and letting his face meet my hand over fist even better the ground. I don’t know even how to respond to you its funny but this isn’t and I don’t care about any of them I just want my life back I want to be that silly ass funny always motivated and striving to be the best at whatever I am doing. The funniest thing is, I am a behavioral coach and I was pursuing being a life coach to help these kids who have self-esteem issues or being bullied trying to help them before they go down a bad path like I did however I survived and now I am all about helping others and that’s why I cannot believe I have had my whole life one day so happy except for the nonsense with work but its work and I was looking for another job and then the next day my whole life was ripped from me and I almost have the case of the fuckits and that’s not a good place to be. That blowfish has been caught to many times, so yes I cut the bait, threw that diseases infested fish back. I am on the boat now and just trying to find my way back. Fuck it, I am writing a letter to someone above her then peace out MD. I will just provide the EEOC which already knows, but I was waiting to see if I got my order approved. I’m going into Priesthood. Fuck this.

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  10. I am happy for this but my stay in this country may finally be coming to an end. I am getting my airline ticket refund money and in about six months hope to have enough to make the plunge and move to Israel. Sam is going to talk to Michael once the injunction ends and then we will move to Israel…thanks for continuing the fight against restraining order abuse…

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  11. I read the story at the link you provided. Makes me wonder if anything more has changed or reverted since 2010. Geez….If I could find an attorney willing to do 40-50 free hours I would have damn sure filed the lawsuit. You have to get these things heard in court and rulings made. Though a judicial ‘rule’ is nice a judicial ruling is much better for everyone falsely accused.

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