This is the third sequential post on this blog about Legal Abuse Syndrome (LAS), a condition proposed by marriage and family therapist Karin P. Huffer “that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud” and that’s exacerbated by “abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts.” This post surveys accounts of affliction (and its sources) drawn from various websites.
Editorial intrusions and commentary in this post have been kept to a minimum, but some grammatical polishing is acknowledged.
“You May Be Suffering from Legal Abuse Syndrome if You Have Been a Victim of DCF”:
I have been doing some reading on LAS (Legal Abuse Syndrome) and PTSD since I have begun to fear my own shadow. I hate the doorbell to ring. I run to the window to try to see who it might be, and rarely answer. If someone knocks on the door with any force, I am paralyzed. I do not like to answer the phone and thank God for caller ID. When I go out of the house, heaven help me if I see a child who reminds me of what we have lost. I cannot tell you the number of times I have vomited in public toilets. A police car in the rearview mirror leads to deep breathing and panic attacks. The thought of walking into a courtroom is enough to reduce me to a shaking mess. Certain names…can cause me to feel a sense of violation like no other. Sleep rarely happens and is often interrupted by nightmares, or even worse, waking and screaming for my child. No one cares; all of those I thought would protect us have not only failed us but willingly allowed misconduct and lies. Those I held in high regard due to their positions of trust and power I have found to have let their power corrupt their values and morals. Do I think I am ill? Yes, I know I am. I have a good doctor who is trying to help, a church to support me, and my husband and children who have stood by me, but I also know I will never be the same person I was. I will never trust in the “system” and have been totally disillusioned by what I always thought were my constitutional rights as an American citizen not only being disregarded but willfully being trampled on by those sworn to protect them.
“Sufferer Legal Abuse Syndrome” (MyPTSD.com):
I was just diagnosed with PTSD from a prolonged and nasty legal battle (10 years). It was my understanding that PTSD was only for vets coming back from war. I guess there are other ways to fight wars. Mine was in the courtroom trying to fight off the onslaught of unethical attorneys and judges. I believe I fought for a good cause, but it has taken its toll on me. My nerves are shot; I have anxiety from the minute I wake up until I go to bed. Thoughts of what they did and the power they had over me and my children are with me always. I want to have a life, but I still deal with the consequences every day. I feel guilty for feeling this way as there are so many other people who have been through much worse. I think the feeling of being powerless and abused by a system I had faith in has shaken my foundation. My feelings about people and the world have changed forever, and my trust level is very low. A psychologist involved in the battle betrayed me and my family with lies, along with two other professionals in this field, all my attorneys, and the judges. You might discount my viewpoint as overboard. It took a long time to see it myself, but my investigations proved correct.
“Legal Abuse Syndrome” (Caught.net):
I became depressed, physically ill, and seriously suicidal after experiencing the insanity of litigation. I lost my home and was sent to the street with nothing but the clothes on my back. Literally everything I owned was gone for several years. I fought my fight to points of exhaustion where all I could do was stare into space. Friends had left; I was emotionally isolated, and normal living activities were no longer normal. Rage doesn’t come close to describing the feelings I lived with for years. Even this is not the full story of how bad it got.
“Posttraumatic Stress Disorder Legal Abuse Syndrome”:
I was diagnosed about two years ago with LAS [Legal Abuse Syndrome]. Protracted litigation and corrupt court decisions not only exacerbated my fibromyalgia but caused me to begin a whole new set of debilitating symptoms which have rendered me unable to sleep properly, hold a job, succeed in relationships, enjoy life, maintain goals, dreams, and hope. I suffer from what I call “spinal cord attacks,” which feel like rushes of adrenaline or cortisol permeating my spine, making me feel paralyzed, causing severe pain, lasting for 30 seconds to two minutes, and resulting in complete exhaustion and distress.
My once beautiful life as a drama and music teacher, writer and producer of children’s musicals, and fledgling writer has all but vanished. I am so debilitated from extensive legal research, useless and destructive attorneys and judges, horrendous living conditions imposed upon me by corrupt judges who denied me due process, the loss of my beautiful family home to my ex (which I had been paying for but couldn’t qualify for), the purging of all my earthly belongings, a now transient lifestyle, and increasing medical problems like high blood pressure, anxiety attacks, and hopelessness.
“Massachusetts Mother Calling for Family Court Justice in Domestic Abuse Cases”:
I have missed all of my three daughters’ birthdays, first days of school, first dances, holidays, vacations, and school volunteering since 2007. My youngest daughter, Kelly, is nine. That means I have already missed out on half her life. I am not a drug addict. I am not an alcoholic. I was and still am an upstanding citizen in the community despite Attorney Arabasz and his clients’ attempts to cause deliberate and malicious harm to me. I do my best to volunteer in the community, including hospice and domestic abuse, and have won numerous awards for my volunteerism over the years, which tends to bring me a renewed sense of healing from my own traumas. My children and I cannot get back those formative years we have missed. They are gone forever, never to return. I am speechless in my ability to describe the pain and anguish I feel over this injustice alone.
Over that time, as documented through the courts, I have endured numerous, repeated, serious abuses that I have come to the court pleading for help with to no avail. I am a human being who can take being abused only for so long. I have suffered serious, repeated, unrelenting, undue stresses, many of which are criminal in nature, that have caused health issues. When the trial arrived, I prayed and hoped for justice to finally prevail for the sake of my children.
I have been severed from my children’s lives with little to no contact since August 3, 2011, and even longer since September 2007. The verdict of August 2012 from the trial was devastating to me and I worried about the long-term negative impact it would have on my children….
As a result, I am currently being treated for ADHD, Legal Abuse Syndrome, and trauma-related stress, and my treatment since trial has increased. Symptoms of trauma-related stress include gastrointestinal issues; anxiety and fear, especially when exposed to situations reminding me of the many repeated traumatic events; trouble sleeping; trouble eating; low energy; memory problems, including difficulty remembering aspects of the trauma; a “scattered” feeling and inability to focus on work or daily activities; emotional “numbness,” which causes me to feel withdrawn, disconnected, or different from others; and protectiveness of loved ones or fear for their safety.
I did not suffer any of these symptoms until after I married an abusive partner and endured years of abuse. I was a victim that the system failed to protect, and now I suffer greatly. I was a fantastic mother, and even the father never questioned my ability to care for or mother these children until he got what he wanted and stole financially through the divorce. However, the system has stripped away all my ability to love, nurture, and parent my three daughters who need me greatly.
The foregoing first-person accounts are hardly comprehensive; they were culled because they’re evocative. Notably, they echo numerous comments submitted by visitors to this blog, who have reported everything from homelessness and hopelessness to living “like a hamster” to contemplating suicide. Many respondents to the e-petition “Stop False Allegations of Domestic Violence” have reported the same.
The third-person account below, though it leaves the victim’s torment to the reader’s imagination, is certainly no less sympathetic than those above. It speaks, particularly, to how blind or indifferent others may be to the effects of legal abuse.
“How academia betrayed and continues to betray Aaron Swartz”:
As news spread last week that digital rights activist Aaron Swartz had killed himself ahead of a federal trial on charges that he illegally downloaded a large database of scholarly articles with the intent to freely disseminate its contents, thousands of academics began posting free copies of their work online, coalescing around the Twitter hashtag #pdftribute.
This was a touching tribute: a collective effort to complete the task Swartz had tried—and many people felt died trying—to accomplish himself. But it is a tragic irony that the only reason Swartz had to break the law to fulfill his quest to liberate human knowledge was that the same academic community that rose up to support his cause after he died had routinely betrayed it while he was alive.
This survey concludes with an impersonal commentary from a woman who’s still embroiled in legal strife and fears the consequences of speaking about it too candidly in a public medium. She has removed herself to another state to escape a malicious accuser’s clutches but remains in the crosshairs, despite having been deprived of everything she once took for granted—including her sense of self.
“‘White Collar’ Domestic Violence Sanctioned by the State”:
The fraudulently obtained protective order is the new tool of abuse for abusers to obtain total power and control over their victims. The protective order is obtained using false allegations of domestic violence and abuse against the victim in an open court of law without due process or an evidentiary hearing. The protective order is then used as a state-sanctioned license to stalk, harass, intimidate, and continue to abuse the victim. The victim lives in constant fear that s/he will be arrested and incarcerated any time the abuser chooses to place him or her in jail. The accuser plays the victim of his or her own crime [cf. Dr. Tara Palmatier’s “Presto, Change-o, DARVO: Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender”].
This is the new “white collar” form of domestic violence and abuse. It is a tactic used by both men and women to gain the upper hand in a divorce or custody battle, or to have a domestic partner simply removed from a lease and ejected from his or her own home. In the case of a victim’s terrible misfortune of coupling with a psychopath or sociopath suffering from a narcissistic or borderline personality disorder, the protective order is fraudulently obtained by means of false accusations of domestic abuse simply to gain total power and control over him or her while simultaneously inflicting emotional distress to hurt and humiliate him or her and publicly harm his or her reputation. This in and of itself allows the abuser to compromise the integrity of his or her victim with a permanent public record, thereby impugning the victim’s character. This not only serves to satisfy the malicious intent of the abuser; it also renders the victim helpless in any and all attempts to plead innocence and defend him- or herself to law enforcement and the courts.
Acts of malicious intent by way of falsifying police reports, manufacturing evidence, and committing perjury in a court of law—all crimes at a felony offense level—go criminally unprosecuted because restraining order courts are of a civil nature, held by low level officials with no due process. Any attempts by the victim to file complaints or police reports of his or her own are useless and futile attempts at self-protection, because probable cause cannot be proven; a victim simply cannot prove with tangible evidence the intent or motive of the abuser. All attempts by the victim to file complaints or police reports to protect him- or herself do is embolden and provoke the abuser to escalate the abusive behavior toward the victim to the point that the victim cannot attend school, go to work, or even leave his or her own home out of living in a constant state of fear that the abuser will have him or her arrested on a whim.
Without due process and without protection, the victim is ultimately under the total power and control of the abuser. Law enforcement and the legal system (the courts, the judges, the attorneys) are all simply pawns in the sociopath’s sick game of abuse of process. A carefully constructed web of lies is in itself so complex that the victim is powerless to prove s/he is the victim of abuse, not its perpetrator. Over time, after the victim is professionally and academically destroyed, publicly humiliated, and ultimately alienated and completely isolated from his or her community, from friends, and even from family, s/he begins to doubt him- or herself and eventually loses all sense of human identity. Many victims commit suicide as a result of the abuse.
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*See also this post about the death of Christopher Mackney, which contains links to his suicide note: “First Amendment Rights from Beyond the Grave: Defense of a Suicide’s Publication of His Final Words by the Randazza Legal Group.” The circumstances that conduced to Mr. Mackney’s taking his life are chronicled in a forthcoming book by investigative journalist Michael Volpe, which is titled, Bullied to Death: The Chris Mackney Story.
TALKING BACK to restraining orders 
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A little something that I thought should be posted outside the doors of every courtroom in Pierce County Superior courts in Tacoma Wa. Having each and every preposterous illegal act listed on this notice be done to my children and me with intentional malice. ________________________________________________
“WARNING!!”
STEPPING THROUGH THESE DOORS, ENTERING ONE OF THESE COURT ROOMS, YOU RUN THE MORE THAN POSSIBLE RISK OF BEING SUBJECTED TO THE FOLLOWING BY VARIOUS OFFICIALS OF THE COURT OR SUSPENDED FROM PRACTICE ATTORNEYS AS WE DO NOT PREVENT THEM FROM CONTINUING TO PRACTICE LAW HERE. YOU MAY BE DEFRAUDED, ILLEGALLY FORCED TO BANKRUPTCY, HAVING YOUR CREDIT, CAREER & LIFE DESTROYED. FURTHERMORE, HAVING YOUR CHILDREN, MONEY, ASSETS & YOUR HOME ILLEGALLY STRIPPED FROM YOU REMAINS A VERY HIGH PROBABILITY. —— YOU ARE HEREBY ADVISED TO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING YOU ARE TOLD BY ANY OF OUR JUDGES, PROSECUTORS, CLERKS OR VARIOUS OTHER EMPLOYEES. WHEREAS WE ONLY APPLY THE LAW AND THE RULES WHERE & WHEN WE WANT TO. MAKING CERTAIN IT SERVES US AND NOT YOU.
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THIS NOTICE SHALL SERVE AS YOUR ONE AND ONLY REMINDER THAT IF YOU CHOOSE TO IGNORE THIS POSTED WARNING & PROCEED, THE COURT, THE WSBA, THE STATE, NOR THE UNITED STATES ARE LIABLE IF YOU DO. SO BE AWARE IF YOU CHOOSE TO DISREGARD THIS FAIR WARNING NOTICE, IT WILL MOST LIKELY END UP BEING, JUST TOO BAD FOR “YOU“. THERE IS NO AGENCY OR AUTHORITY THAT YOU CAN CALL THAT WILL BE WILLING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU AT ALL, REGARDLESS HOW ILLEGAL IT IS.
YOU MUST FORGET YOUR CONSTITUTIONAL RIGHTS AND OUR SWORN OATH, BECAUSE THE FIRST THING WE DO IS IGNORE THEM BOTH. DARE MENTION ANYTHING ABOUT EITHER THE CONSTITUTION, THE RIGHTS YOU THINK IT PROVIDES YOU OR OUR SWORN OATH WILL REALLY PISS US OFF!
RESULTING IN YOU BEING REASSURED OF WHAT YOU HAVE MANAGED TO ACCOMPLISH FOR YOURSELF
DUE PROCESS MEANS PROCESSING YOU, YOUR MONEY, YOUR ASSETS AND YOUR FUTURE.
IF YOU COMPLAIN TO THE FBI OR THE U.S. ATTORNEY, THEY WILL REFUSE TO HELP YOU. IF YOU THREATEN TO SUE THEM, THEY WILL SEND THE U.S. MARSHAL TO THREATEN, INTIMIDATE OR KILL YOU.
YOU HAVE BEEN OFFICIALLY NOTIFIED & WARNED FOR YOUR SAFETY & WELL BEING, AS REQUIRED BY LAW!!
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WARNING!!______________________________________________
STEPPING THROUGH THESE DOORS, ENTERING ONE OF THESE COURT ROOMS, YOU RUN THE MORE THAN POSSIBLE RISK OF BEING SUBJECTED TO THE FOLLOWING BY VARIOUS OFFICIALS OF THE COURT OR SUSPENDED FROM PRACTICE ATTORNEYS, AS WE DO NOT PREVENT THEM FROM CONTINUING TO PRACTICE LAW HERE. YOU MAY BE DEFRAUDED, ILLEGALLY FORCED TO BANKRUPTCY, HAVING YOUR CREDIT, CAREER & LIFE DESTROYED. FURTHERMORE, HAVING YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR MONEY, ASSETS & YOUR HOME ILLEGALLY STRIPPED FROM YOU REMAINS A VERY HIGH PROBABILITY. —— YOU ARE HEREBY ADVISED TO NOT BELIEVE ANYTHING YOU ARE TOLD BY ANY OF OUR JUDGES, PROSECUTORS, CLERKS OR VARIOUS OTHER EMPLOYEES. WHEREAS WE ONLY APPLY THE LAW AND THE RULES WHERE & WHEN WE WANT TO. MAKING SURE THAT IT SERVES US & NOT YOU. AT TIMES, IT MAY BE NECESSARY FOR IT TO APPEAR AS IF YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS AT ALL. THERE IS NO AGENCY OR AUTHORITY THAT YOU CAN CALL, THAT WILL BE WILLING TO DO ANYTHING FOR YOU AT ALL.
THIS NOTICE SHALL SERVE AS YOUR ONE AND ONLY REMINDER THAT IF YOU CHOOSE TO IGNORE THIS POSTED WARNING & PROCEED, THE COURT, THE WSBA, THE STATE, NOR THE UNITED STATES ARE LIABLE IF YOU DO. SO BE AWARE, IF YOU CHOOSE TO DISREGARD THIS FAIR WARNING NOTICE, IT COULD END UP BEING, JUST TOO BAD FOR “YOU“. YOU HAVE BEEN OFFICIALLY NOTIFIED & WARNED FOR YOUR SAFETY & WELL BEING, AS REQUIRED BY LAW!! PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT FROM YOUR DEDICATED COUNTY, STATE & FEDERAL SERVICE PROVIDERS
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*See also this post about the death of Christopher Mackney, which contains links to his suicide note: “First Amendment Rights from Beyond the Grave: Defense of a Suicide’s Publication of His Final Words by the Randazza Legal Group.” The circumstances that conduced to Mr. Mackney’s taking his life are chronicled in a forthcoming book by investigative journalist Michael Volpe, which is titled, Bullied to Death: The Chris Mackney Story.
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The man this post concerns may also be dead:
https://restrainingorderabuse.com/2015/11/08/court-abetted-trespassing-burglary-larceny-and-embezzlement-a-terminally-ill-mans-story-of-restraining-order-abuse/
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Thank you for posting these horror stories. I am very glad you are back, as I am sure a great many people are. Right now I can say for my own situation that I am beginning to come out of the PTSD this time, but I have been through it before, and we never know when it or other types of stress that we face at the hands of others unjustly will return. I am focusing in my studies in an online university in Criminal Justice, and got permission to write about the abuses of restraining orders for my research paper. It certainly is enlightening to see how many right criminal defendants have that WE don’t, especially since the Constitution of the Unites States that these rights are for ALL citizens, not just the criminal defendants. Judges in the courts don’t consider these cases worthy of giving us our rights, and we MUST fight for our rights if we are not all to end up as permanent victims and suffer the remainder of our lives. There is too much at stake not to fight back. I am right now trying to learn as much as I can about the legal system so that I can go forward as I am determined to do from a Constitutional standpoint. As I see it, all the civil groups that have won their rights of late, common citizens just like the rest of us, have put our government in a good place to hear us and to do something about it. W e DO have rights, and especially, we have a right to live whatever lives we have left in freedom from fear, from depression, from harassment, and from undue legalities. But it will not happen as long as we do not do anything about it.
I am still reminded of one poor man, Gideon, who took his case to be represented when at the time, poor people did not get representation. And he won a landmark case. It is time for us to win OUR landmark case. I am going forward as best as I can. This is not easy as there is so much to learn as to how to do everything, and how to manage to get a Constitutional Attorney to represent this case, but someone once told me, “If we don’t try, we don’t get.” And wouldn’t working on this be better for our souls than to do through the rest of our lives broken and lost souls? It is my most sincere thought that if we ALL take up this cause as something to get changed, somehow, some way, we will manage. It won’t happen overnight, but we can do this and must, not only for ourselves, but for our children, and our children’s children. Thank you, Todd, for returning. We missed your excellent work. Peace and many blessings, Anne Copeland
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This is all very real. I have lived it. In the family courts in Houston (Harris County), Texas from December 2011 until the present; August 2015. I have a similar story to tell. I lost my job of 12 years due to the legal harassment and abuse. In 2013 I was under “temporary orders” which forced me to pay my ex-wife $6500 net per month. This left me $1100 a month for my own expenses. At the same time my ex-wife had returned to work and was netting an additional $5500 a month. She filed the divorce and was intentionally underemployed at the time the temporary hearing was held. Afterwards she returned to work full time but also committed discovery abuse and did not provide me her pay stubs or inform me in order to keep me from getting a reduction in support. In October I lost my job because Of the legal distractions. Then when I could no longer pay my ex-wife $4200 a month in spousal support (I was still paying her the $2300 a month in child support) and keep a roof over my head her and her lawyer combined this fact with fabricated evidence and accused me of being intentionally difficult and uncooperative, pure lies. Oral testimony was all they presented and the judge had me illegally jailed for contempt. Judge Pratt ordered 180 days in jail and said I could not be released until I had paid my wife about $12000. Ex-wife and lawyer set hearing on a Friday on a weekend I was supposed to have weekend visitation with my 2 kids (aged 7 and 4 years old) instead I was taken into custody in he courtroom and had to spend a week in the Harris County jail before my lawyer could get the judge to reverse her illegal and unconstitutional ruling. To make payments I had to deplete my retirement savings. At final trial in September 2014. I was ordered to pay $2200 a month in child support even though I had been out of work for 11 months and the court awarde my ex-wife the last $130,000. In my company 401k retirement account. I have had to borrow $40,000 dollars to stay out of jail amd keep from being homeless. My lawyer filed 2 requests for a hearimg to modify support, the last was in February 2015. I was told that the court will not grant a hearimg for the sole purpose of a request for child support reduction. I new months has begun I have no money to pay child support this month. I have no money to pay rent. I have an ear infection but have no medical insurance or money to pay for medical care. The “Lone Star Family Medical Clinic” claims to be a federally mandated facility to provide services to the indigent and even though I submitted an application for financial assistance and produced all requested information and documents I get the run-around where they ask for documents I have already provided. Based on my reading today I suspect that sexual discrimination is occurring and that no funds are available to men who need medial care. I used to believe in American and the American Dream. Now I see only the unethical lawyers who have high jacked the legal system to control and manipulate people in order to deprive them of there hard earned life savings and human rights. Good lawyers don’t want to make there own lives more difficult by making themselves a target so they don’t confront the evil. The best result you can get is find a good lawyer and a couple of people in the system who support you so that you are not falsely imprisoned for the rest of your life. If you run out of money and your lawyer refuses to represent you while you have an unethical lawyer targeting you. Your life is effectively over. In 2013 I was earning over $150k and had over $400k in assets. I was employed as a petroleum geologist for 12 years for the largest oil and gas company in the World. Today I can’t find a job, I am in debt, I live in constant fear of being jailed. A process server shows up every 6 weeks when I go to pick up the children with new court summons for some sort of contempt asking that I be jailed and pay $5000 for ex-wife’s legal fees. I have no medical insurancce and can’t affort to pay for medical care. The court refuses to grant me a hearimg to request financial relief but will grant a hearing to my ex-wife and her lawyer within 30 days if they file contempt for non payment of child support and ask that I be jailed. It’s insanity. The Department of Homeland Security needs to view this rampant legal abuse and discrimination against men as a national security risk. Of course all of these sons growing up without fathers present or with fathers who are financially devastated and shell shocked is great if prisons and/or waging war are part of your long term business strategy. It:s 4:30 AM I have trouble sleeping these days. While dark days for sure God has blessed me even through all of this. At least I still get to see my two children so losing everything else was worth it. I hope that you will be as fortunate. Go in peace. Tim
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If you would like to publish your story as a post, Tim, you’d be welcome to. Two or three (word processor) pages with a few more details would do.
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It is with great sorrow that I discover this website. I’ve read all there is to know about restraining order abuse. I have found this legal abuse info at a time nearly 2 years after my husband left me for an equally disturbed individual as he Rasean Powell. I have always been a happy woman I never have been plagued by depression but this new info comes with relief and sorrow at the future I seem doomed for.
I have begun that walk to depression and the three choices. I see myself wishing to stop this man who I supported for 23 years a faithful wife deeply embedded in the marijuana lifestyle. I’ve suffered a horrific serious of legal battles due to one single accusation completely unfounded and with not one single witness not even a police report to support his knife incident. This incident he claims I threw a knife. I had no record I was desperately waiting for my husbsnf to return the children he kidnapped 12 days prior to April 13, 2015. Instead I found myself in court for restraining order I was unprepared and defenseless due to law that allows this type of hearing to take place with no notice. I was thrown into a unjust judicial system that has allowed my abuser to destroy n y life as well as my two small childrens. This man and woman have put my strength to the test and I stand firm in the belief that truth and ho n it will somehow see my thru this maze. It is,a disheartening realization that there are people out there who lack the morals and integrity I had instilled in me as a child. I wished to give my children the same standards to live by. My small children who I see for 4 hours week after being their primary caregiver are being taut aught to lie to judges, police and especially me. It’s hard to imagine that this can happen to a good wife and motger. That to is,disheartening I hear from many people in this field and other fields such as doctors and professors that this is unheard if and not to worry . I hear no court takes the children from their mother n i r in California they say. You get half and he will owe you. No this can happen to anyone and u know I had the choice to marry this man I had no idea this,was inside someone I slept next t I each night. I didn’t leave him he instead carried on a affair with a woman rasean p who has to date filed 5 restraining orders on me by forging and signing not only witness letters for my husband but restraining orders and taking my criminal record from not one mark to a long list of marks only crediting my husband’s claims. I am facing jail time and have been arrested 3 times including several be on the lookou t watrants. I have not recieved one dime o f n our savings I f $500,000 , been left homeless or in i ur RV despite owning two homes which I’m on deed and title. I have no vehicle not even my personal possesions gave been returned. The fires that I believe my husband set up to have me perish in have put me under more scrutiny. I have received no help y r t there is insurance money sitting out if my reach and control. I gave so much more to tell it is,a disheartening feeling to realize that my perfect life has been coming apart at the center of a storm I simply cannot seem to regain my control over. My guns used in our,ranch our missing and I fear I’m gonna be set up or worse killed in self defense and given the light that’s been she’d soon me publicly they will get away with it. This is why I read the choices you lay put and with great sorrow feel that in a few more years if this what choice will i have other then to end my part in this. My husband is a monster and shows no signs of letting up. I still believe in the good in others and I am in denial that this us what can happen in a free country. It us with gratitude that I read your pages and I do take comfort in a few people truly understanding what I have been faced with. The court system here in mendocino county California had let me down. This is marijuana country and the money and lifestyle I chose to live has not helped me get justice in a unlawful community.
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You do have my understanding and compassion, Jenny. The horror is you can’t even call the process malicious; it’s dumb and mechanical—which may be what evil is. You’re handed from one mindless governmental factotum to the next. They all just read what’s on their papers or their screens. The system is set up so this kind of mischief can be accomplished easily (and there’s no oversight), and then there are those (and they are legion) who swoop in afterwards, amid the sobs and the curses, and declare that your pain and the wreckage made of your life are “nothing.” They say, casually, that you’re nothing and your kids are nothing, and they don’t even know that’s what they’ve said. If you’re of a mind—and especially if you connect with women who’ve been through the same—let some “women’s advocates” know your story and your feelings. They’re the ones who keep this process humming along. They pretend people like you don’t exist, and maybe they’d prefer that you stopped existing, because your story doesn’t support theirs.
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My own blood is part of the “system” she has used it against me. Believe me there is nothing you can do to fight back. Suicide is the only option in such a situation. Not encouraging it for anyone. But for me I can’t fight back. How?
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I will publish your story if you’d like me to. If “I” publish it, I couldn’t use your accuser’s name. I could alternatively help you frame your story. I’m not liable for anything you publish.
Basically, your options are these: (1) Find a way to reconcile yourself to your situation and compartmentalize the pain, (2) defy your circumstances by talking back and trying to correct perceptions, or (3) create your own justice. I could only help with the second one, which, I should add, might provide you with a chronicle that you could show an attorney down the road—or anyone else you needed to.
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my friend, I WAS there, exactly lke you by my own blood.
I was sitting motionless for days and nights seeing suicide as the only option.
Do you want to know what saved me and maybe can help you ?
I became very angry . I experienced a transformation in my nucleus .
Killing myself was a present to them. I even felt kind of evil.
EVERYTHING changed after that .
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