November 25, 2014
J, a single dad who lives in Texas with his two kids, submitted his story as a comment to the blog in September, prefacing it: “I am writing this to share [it] with the rest of my fellow male victims [who] fall in with the dreaded Crazy.” The “dreaded Crazy” in J’s case manifested as […]
November 23, 2014
Journalists who recognize the harm of facile or false allegations invariably focus on rape. This ignores the harm done to women by false allegations, of course, and shows ignorance, besides, of a significantly more fertile yet equally damaging source of wrongful prosecutions: the civil restraining order. Unarguably there are few miscarriages of justice worse than when […]
November 17, 2014
According to popular conception, only men can be stalkers. That’s because according to popular conception, men are dangerous; women aren’t. Sure, women get lovestruck—or sometimes love-stuck—but they’re harmless, after all. The engineers of this myth, of course, which today informs all things social, from art to behavioral science to the law and its enforcement, are feminists and their advocates. Sympathy for battered […]
November 15, 2014
I bonded with a client recently while wrestling a tough job to conclusion. I’ll call him “Joe.” Joe and I were talking in his backyard, and he confided to me that his next-door neighbor was “crazy.” She’d reported him to the police “about a 100 times,” he said, including for listening to music after dark […]
November 6, 2014
“Ten years ago, about one in 10 domestic violence arrests involved women as defendants. Now, it’s one in five in Michigan and Connecticut, one in four in Vermont and Colorado, and more than one in three in New Hampshire. Public officials are trying to figure out what’s going on. They are especially mystified because, according […]
November 1, 2014
This search term brought a visitor here a day or two ago: “restraining order in ohio because a couple texts.” It struck a chord with this author, because he himself was issued a restraining order on a similar basis (three emails over a weekend). There were accompanying allegations, but the court’s final ruling was based […]
October 30, 2014
Some recent posts on this blog have touched on what might be called the five magic words, because their utterance may be all that’s required of a petitioner to obtain a restraining order. The five magic words are these: “I’m afraid for my life.” Cops, it’s even reported, tell women whom they goad to get […]
See this post, especially, which summarizes much of what these topical editorials concern and may be of value to anyone desperate to explain to a family member, friend, significant other, teacher, spiritual adviser, counselor, employer, attorney, or journalist how s/he’s been wrongly represented and injured. Few people who haven't been abused by them know restraining orders are abused; fewer still how they’re abused or why.
Those with restraining order cases pending are prompted to consult the blog’s Q & A page. Corrections to its author’s interpretations and grudging knowledge, incidentally, are always welcomed.
Since laws concerning restraining orders, their implementation and customs, and different means to combat them can vary from state to state, visitors are also urged to investigate and familiarize themselves with the rules that obtain in their home jurisdictions.
They’re further urged to secure the counsel of a qualified, reliable, and ethical attorney if at all within their means (some do exist).
The restraining order racket is a rigged game that tends to reward inveterate liars and their invertebrate minions.
The truth won’t set you free.